Twice now I have gotten into relationship altering arguments over proper range safety. Though problems in each of these relationships existed before the range safety issues came up, it was the gun safety disagreements that were the final straw that broke this camel's back.
I'll sum both incidents/relationships succinctly because there is no need for all the details.
The first was almost a year ago with my ex-girlfriend. I had helped her select her first pistol and during a range trip she broke a cardinal safety rule and pointed the barrel of her unloaded gun directly at me on accident. This accident wasn't the biggest issue. The true issue was that the ensuing argument showed me that she was the type who even when completely in the wrong would never admit it and would fight tooth and nail to be right in the face of true logic. She couldn't make a mistake and take in constructive criticism. It wasn't the first time that she couldn't be wrong in an argument. It was just the final incident that let me know that there was no real going forward in a relationship where one party can never admit they're wrong.
The first fight was the beginning of a breakup. The second incident is still fresh and in play but I have made up my mind on what to do.
Yesterday I was supposed to go out to the country and shoot with my father. It was supposed to just be us going shooting until shortly before meeting he informed me that he would be bringing his girlfriend to go shooting with us.
Some brief backstory on this woman must include that she has lived at his house for 3 years without having a job and has no assest or prospects to speak of. She is 100% dependent and enabled by my father. She is a serious alcoholic that gets blackout drunk on a regular basis. She can barely make it through cooking a meal without cutting herself on accident so lets just say that bumbling alcoholics and guns don't mix. She claims to have started going to AA meetings, but she is also the type of alcoholic who hides her drinking and feels the need to start the day with a drink to as she put it, "take the edge off the day." Even is she were to sober up she has so many other issues that she would still be considered "broken" by most people. My father and her are in a constant state of fighting, making up and absolute denial.
I refused to go shooting with them because I feel that she is a serious range safety concern. I don't want to get shot by a clumsy alcoholic who shouldn't be around guns in the first place.
My refusal to join them resulted in a blowout fight with my father in which I expressed my concerns about shooting with her as well as my general opinions about his and her relationship which I have expressed before. He continued his denial and would not acknowledge my conerns.
I still want to have a relationship with my father but will not expose myself to their toxic relationship again. I will be around him but will excuse myself from any activity that involves her.
So, even though problems existed before the gun safety issues arose, the lack of safety concerning guns is my final straw that I won't back down from and won't excuse.
I don't think that I am being to stubborn, especially when it comes to safety issues conerning firearms.