Update on Mom.

Update on Mom.

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    Update on Mom.

    My mother has been diagnosed with dementia. I am going through the options for her best interests. I really hate the idea of putting her in a home. Being a lower end blue collar guy, I don't know how I am going to do it. Please keep my mother, brother, and I in your prayers Thank you.

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    Both she, and your family will be in our prayers.
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    Prayers sent for you and your family. I have a sister in a nursing home...it's not easy on anybody. Hang in there.

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    Consider it done. Will keep your Mom and the rest of the family in thoughts and payers.
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    A very tough situation, very sorry to hear. Dementia can be tough on everyone. Having gone through a chronic disease with my father, I would suggest that you might want to start checking with Medicare to determine your options should it come to needing assistance.

    Prayers sent!
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    Prayers are with you from both my wife and I, my wife lost her mom from that after it progressed some 25yrs ago.

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    You and your family will be in my prayers. May the Lord guide and assist you all in your time of need.
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    I'm really sorry to hear about your Mom. While there are several types of dementia, here is a great resource I've referred to at length: Dementia & Alzheimer's Caregiver Center
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    Prayers for you and your family. It's hard to see your loved ones drift off into the abiss. You'll do what's best, for everyone involved, no matter what.
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    It's a difficult thing to deal with. Watching those you love lose their grip on the present.
    I'm dealing with it right now as well. I was forced to do what I could to protect my mom and the general public. She's in a Memory unit in a nursing facility that she seems to like. It was a tough decision. Stay strong.

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    Prayers definitely coming. I can only imagine how hard this must be on you and your family, I hope you all find a way to manage things positively.

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    Since you said you were "a lower end blue collar guy", have you checked to see if there is any city/county help available?
    Or possibly Medicaid?
    Our thoughts are with you. We have a relative going through the same thing.
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    I'm sorry to hear about your Mom.

    I'll be sure to keep all of you in my prayers and that you find the answers you need.
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    Absolutely. You and your family are in my prayers.

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    Prayers for you and your family while you go through this.

    I know how people hate to put a loved one in a Nursing Home because we think of how much we wouldn't want to be there. But, the person with dementia often doesn't know they're in a nursing home, or actually likes the fact that there are lots of people around and activities to do.

    The caretaker has it much worse than the patient because the patient is now in their own world and not that concerned with what the reality is around them. Caretakers burn out very quickly, especially with dementia patients because they are exhausting and a 24/7 job, no matter how much you love them.

    Being in a nursing home doesn't mean LEFT in a nursing home. You could go visit every day if you wanted to. If you have family members in the area, they can go too. My Mother has been in a nursing home for 7 years now and she has more visitors in the home than she did when she lived in her own home.

    It's sad, and it's hard on you, but many of us have been there so don't feel alone.
    It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.

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