The D word came a'callin last week....

[cagueits]

Sorry to hear about the divorce. I can only add that in many states, divorces will not be finalized until she gives birth. That is so child support can be determined. If she has only recently become pregnant, since you moved and you believe her EX is the father, You should file for divorce based on adultery. In many states the person filing for the divorce is the complainant and is the person in control. If there is a question about the paternity, a amniocentesis can be performed to determine the paternity of the baby, before she gives birth.

Good luck, I'll say a prayer for you , hang in there.

Listen to this advice, in my personal experience it is worth gold.

Also, get in contact with a good divorce attorney.

[DefensiveCarry.com]

[shooterX]

Ditto on the good attorney.

You might also want to consider a paternity test after the child is born.

Sound advice, sorry your having to go through this.

[SteveinNEPA]

Mrtwice:

Buy the movie FireProof and watch it
Buy the book The Love Dare and use as a guide to regularly practice loving your wife more than yourself
Buy a Bible (if you don't already have one), read the New Testament, and ask yourself if you are the man and husband God wants you to be. Start with the Gospel of John and Romans.

Saw the movie,as far as LOVING her, I did everything for her,supported her EVERY choice, hell I never even so much as raised my voice. And for loving her more than myself, thats a good reason that I have no CAR, because money that was to be spent on fixing it was used to get EVERYTHING we needed for the new house and her kid, my "step son".
I have a bible, and it helps in alot of ways, but for this situation all I really need is an attorney and Gods help with getting everything done quick and easy and Gods protection.

I wont flame you,and I dont believe anyone else will as there is no reaosn to.
I appreciate the advice, but as CCW9mm said, not all relationships can or should be salvaged. This is one that can not and SHOULD not be salvaged. I have since moved past the fact that she is no longer in my life and that I will start over again. Truth is, I should have seen it coming the day we moved there. I have contacted an attorney and I am awaiting the paperwork.

~Steve

[Patti]

Good luck, Steve.

When I went through it, I kept telling myself to keep moving forward, never back up.

There were times I'd get knocked down, but I'd pick myself up, and keep moving forward.

Some day you will look back on this, and you will learn from it. Don't do anything or say anything that you will regret.

And remember: What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger.

[CEW58]

It's good you got a lawyer. As others have said, few divorces stay friendly for long. I've been there myself. I spent years in a dead marriage trying to breathe life back into it to no avail. Even my kids (all adults) told me they couldn't imagine how I stayed married to their mother for so long.

The divorce hurt - badly. We were married for nearly 28 years. My divorce became final on December 24th of all days. Merry Christmas...

But on the positive side I'm getting my life back together again and share my life with a loving woman. Someone from my distance past - an old high school sweetheart who recently got out of a long and very bad marriage herself.

Good luck and stay strong. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and you will make it.

[Eagleks]

I am going to get flamed into oblivion for this, but I believe most of the advice you have received on this thread is absolutely horrible. Is this the woman you committed to, for life, for better or for worse?

There is no reason to hummmm a tune, if you are the only one dancing to it.

You cannot make nor force someone to "want" to be there. She's wanting to go back to her Ex, if she's that 'flaky' and the grass is always greener on the other side, it will always seem greener on the other side. RUN Forrest.... RUN !!!

[Arko]

Steve,
Just a paranoid side note:
You may want to change your signature line. Any little thing that can make you appear aggressive if found....Just saying!
Good luck brother.

[Thumper]

Steve, I sure don't have any answers but I know who does... I believe in prayer and I want to pray for you and this situation.

[ItsMyRight2]

She wanted him in the first place. She used the guns as an excuse to do what she wished. I am sorry for your situation. Retain, and effectively use, a good divorce attorney.

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Had nothing to do with the guns. If you didnt have the guns it would have been something else.

And I would tend to believe the baby is his. And I say that because of the fact that he is quick to take her in. Not a lot of men will take in a pregnant woman carrying someone elses baby. Sounds like she wants her new family together before the kid is born.

I am going to get flamed into oblivion for this, but I believe most of the advice you have received on this thread is absolutely horrible. Is this the woman you committed to, for life, for better or for worse?

Here is my advice:

[LIST=1][*] Buy the movie FireProof and watch it[*] Buy the book The Love Dare and use as a guide to regularly practice loving your wife more than yourself[*] Buy a Bible (if you don't already have one), read the New Testament, and ask yourself if you are the man and husband God wants you to be. Start with the Gospel of John and Romans.

I think I puked in my mouth a little when I read that.