The D word came a'callin last week....

[SteveinNEPA]

Well, Bad things happen to good people never sounded better to say then now for me. Wife told me to get lost a week ago and "I want a divorce!" came from her mouth, because of all things, the fact I have a HANDGUN IN THE HOUSE. Everything was fine with it until we moved closer to her family and in retrospect that was a mistake because it also put us closer to her Ex who hates the fact of "guns and kids" seeing as how she has a son by him. But long story short, she wants a divorce because "she wants to be with HIM not me, and because I apparently CHOSE firearms over her because we argued over the reasons I own both handguns and long guns and the fact that I refuse to put ALL my firearms including my carry/defensive ones in the BASEMENT.. Makes no sense since she LOVED the fact I had them at first, even payed for one for fathers day.... I cannot fight this battle because of the beliefs and the facts involved, and I will unfortunatly be filing the required papers within the week. Worst part is, shes pregnant with my child..
Just figured I'd rant a bit and explain why I was gone for so long.

-Steve

[DefensiveCarry.com]

[gunfan]

She wanted him in the first place. She used the guns as an excuse to do what she wished. I am sorry for your situation. Retain, and effectively use, a good divorce attorney.

Good luck and may God bless.

[Patti]

Ditto on the good attorney.

You might also want to consider a paternity test after the child is born.

[DM2]

She wanted him in the first place. She used the guns as an excuse to do what she wished. I am sorry for your situation. Retain, and effectively use, a good divorce attorney.

Good luck and may God bless.

+1 and get a paternity test.

[SteveinNEPA]

More than likly no ATTY. It is being filed as a No-fault/no-contest divorce with no alimony/property rights/etc garbage involved. And in the event that falls to hell, no money for an atty anyway. as for luck and Gods blessings, I'll need them and a paternity test will surely be in the future.

- Steve.

[Pure Kustom]

+1 on the paternity test.

Another good thing to do during any divorce, Is to get rid of the guns until the divorce is final. That way she can't use them against you.

I have had a few friends that did this. Relatives and even lawyers can hold them until the divorce is final.

[dukalmighty]

They probably deserve each other,

[ppkheat]

Sorry about your bad news, I'd say you have better days ahead of you.

[Paco]

Another good thing to do during any divorce, Is to get rid of the guns until the divorce is final. That way she can't use them against you.

Very good advice. The divorce may be civil now, but if she starts listening to the Ex too much it can turn bad, fast.

Sorry this is happening to you, it is never fun to get divorced. I watched my Brother get divorced, my Sister too, both twice and it sucked every time.

Hang in there.

[Lewis128]

+1 on the paternity test.

Another good thing to do during any divorce, Is to get rid of the guns until the divorce is final. That way she can't use them against you.

I have had a few friends that did this. Relatives and even lawyers can hold them until the divorce is final.

+1 getting the guns out of the house and out of her reach.
+1 on paternity tests.

Get a good counselor too to help you work through the emotional crap you're going through. God bless.

[bump]

+1 getting the guns out of the house and out of her reach.
+1 on paternity tests.

[retsupt99]

It's been stated that...

Divorces are very expensive...because they are worth it!

Now, from a man who has been married for 38 years to the same woman, I would try to make necessary repairs...except on the SD issues and move on. If kids were not involved, then perhaps move on.

Next trip, just find a woman you absolutely cannot stand and buy her a house...it can be much quicker and cheaper.

[HKinNY]

Sorry to hear the bad news.I do not wish to add to more bad news but here is what is going to happen. I am partners in a Private Investigation company and I will be willing to bet you a box of 9 mm ammo on this,we see it to often. You and her will start out civil but that will turn ugly real fast. She is going to claim that you hit her/abused the baby/and the kicker will be you threatened her with your guns. Police will lock you up on the sworn complaint. Not important that the charge may be dismissed. May key word. If you are found guilty of domestic violence kiss your guns good-bye forever. You will all types of heartache with her. Either turn the guns in for cleaning or have them vouchered for safekeeping (just check the amount of time they will hold them). I would not give them to family or friend because there is nothing to say that friend or family wouldn't physically give you back one of the guns. The gun store will provide you with proof that they are in for cleaning. Once she signs out the complaint and Leo's knocks on the door and they will be looking to arrest you. With the proof that the guns were turned in prior to the signed complaint, you could and should have her arrested for filing a false report. If you want to PM will be happy to give you some additional insight.

I am sure that the rest of the Leo's will tell you the same thing.

+1 on the paternity test. She is going to look for child support, once she gets it Depends on your state typically 17% of your salary for the next 18-22 years. Plus half child care, half of medical bills, half of school, daycare. You will be linked to Ms and Mr. EX if it is your kid. How long before she will be cohabiting with her ex and spending your money on his kid.

[Patti]

All good advice.

Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.

If she gets nasty and files for a protection order...IMMEDIATELY go file a counter protection order. And don't hesitate for one second.

The best defense is a good offense.

You may not have to, but if you do.....Turn the tables on her.

And ALWAYS, ALWAYS keep your cool. Stay level-headed. Don't let your emotions run away with you.

Emotion will get you in really big trouble.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Amicable divorces are very rare. I'm speaking from experience. Most people become very irrational during divorce proceedings and do really stupid things.

[dhshark]

Keep the phone numbers of 3 lawyers that friends/family have successfully used in the past. If it turns ugly use them, if not keep them in your address book. Sorry about the situation. Keep a rational head about the situation and don't do or say anything that could be used against you later. Always be civil even if the other party isn't, it makes you look better than them.

Shark