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I am very sorry for your loss. I've been there. Although I was appreciative of all the good words and condolences that friends, neighbors, and relatives gave me at the time, MY hurt was so deep that it just didn't seem to make a difference. Our pets give us unconditional love and we return that love by giving them the best care we can. You did your best...Your cat knew that..and you were there to comfort her and the memories you have of your times together will ease the pain. Again..so sorry for your loss..
Sometimes in life you have to stand your ground. It's a hard lesson to learn and even most adults don't get it, but in the end only I can be responsible for my life. If faced with any type of adversity, only I can overcome it. Waiting for someone else to take responsibility is a long fruitless wait.
Yours is a heart that loves to it's fullest. No, you have not lost your mind, you heart is broken.
Time does heal and you will get through this. The scar in your heart will always be there to remind you of the bond you had and the love you lost but... you will surrender your heart again to another friend and you will love that friend with all your heart, fully knowing the risk of another broken heart. This is how you will honor Bebe!
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I lost my pal In August last year. I couldn't shake the pain and sadness. I was reluctant to get another cat thinking that my pal Tommy just could not be replaced. Finally we did get a kitten and he too is a great little pal and really fills the bill but it still hurts to think of losing that little guy. He made me laugh every day of his life. I know exactly how you feel losing your cat.
The strange part of this is she was one of four sibling kittens I raised. I have lost all but one of them, but, the other two that were killed by cars several years ago and the one I have still, do not even come close to being the same as this one, my Bebe.
I loved this one more than any animal, maybe more than anything I have ever loved before.
I am almost 47 years old. I have lost many pets, divorced a woman, lost several girlfriends, lost both parents and none of these losses hurt me like this one did.
This one somehow had all of my heart and her being gone hurts so much.
I just don't think I could ever love another one this way and, right now, I doubt I will try. She was only eight years old and just a few months ago she seemed to be in very good health. The one I have left, Zoe, will live another few years if she is as healthy as she seems and I think that will be my last one.
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Tally, you're not crazy, you're are perfectly normal!
I've been there several times, more than I want to remember, My first cat, Fluffy passed away in 1976, and I'm still dealing with it. I've learned to remember the good times, the bond we shared, and most important the love was mutual.
The most recent, was my son Kujo, June 5, 2008. I'm still having some occasions when this one crushes me. When he passed was the same day my husbands Grandmother passed away, and both of us had a harder time dealing with our boy's passing. We knew he was in pain for about 9 months, went through several treatments and daily medication and he responded well. When his pain got worse and the meds quit working we knew it was time, Making the hardest "right" decision was rough, but out of love the only thing we could do.
My monitor is getting blurry, let me pause a minute...
I've learned to accept the fact, that while he is gone and I can't wrap my arms around him, part of him is still with me, a guardian angel of sorts. A piece of my heart is gone, it went with him, but time will heal that missing piece. How long is hard to say, but knowing you did the best you could is part of the beginning of the process. Take all the time you need, Bebe is missing you too.
Cyber-hugs sent your way!
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Tally, what you are going through is very normal. I've gone through that myself.
Most recently my late Dad passed away at 78 years old while he was suffering from several forms of cancer. Before that I had to put my 17 year old cat to sleep. Evee also had a form of feline cancer as well. You can safely assume that I have come to have severe dislike of cancer. I'm not sure who I cried for more. They both played a major role in my life. They both gave me unconditional love in different ways.
In both cases I know that they are now in a better place. They are not suffering and are whole again. You will get over this difficult time in your life.
Hang in there Tally. Things will get better.
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Rottkeeper, that was good!!
In the last 6 years we've lost Buckwheat ,(12yr) lab,
Jaylynne, (8.5yr) yellow lab, and Simba, (8yr ) tiger stripe cat
Its hard, but just remember the joy you had together!!!
And when the healing is almost through , go and find another to love.
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As you can see by my Avatar, I share your love of animals, in my case pugs. My deepest condolences on your loss.
We have two pugs buried in our back yard under grave markers. Saying goodby to them was just about the hardest thing I have ever done.
The hurt never fully goes away, but it does get better over time.
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Only pet lovers and owners really understand the heartbreak of losing a beloved pet. Over the years I have had to put down far too many, and it never get easier. I truly feel your loss and know the pain you feel. My prayers are with you,
She was a very beautiful cat. I'm so sorry for your loss. And no, as an animal lover, I don't think you're crazy.
You're in my thoughts and prayers.
It's been one year since my best buddy died. He was a 10 year old African Gray, named George.
It made my day to come home from work and be greeted by my feathered friend, saying "I love you".
When George died, the pain in my heart hurt so bad, I thought it was going to burst.
God gave us the capacity to love and some of us love more deeply than others. I don't know why. It's just that way with some of us.
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Losing a pet that you love is as difficult to deal with as a loss of a close family member. Our pets are our children. Last September, my 89 year old mother passed away. Of course i loved her, and her death was a serious loss. When I returned home from Virginia, our sun conure became ill. We took her to the emergency vet in town that would see birds, and Tweeter was transferred the next morning by a pet ambulance service to her regular vet. I called to check on her at noon, and she had made it through the night. The vet was to call me back, and when he hadn't an hour later, my wife called him. Shortly after my call, Tweeter developed respiratory distress, and passed away. Her death hit me much harder than my mother's. At least my mother had a long, good life. Poor tweeter was only 3. My wife and I cried for 3 days. I dearly loved that bid, and I still miss her every day. I feel your pain, my friend. It will take time to be able to accept your pet's passing. I say accept, because you may never fully get over it. But with time you'll be able o deal with it. Now, I think I'll go cry again for Tweeter, Be well.
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