OK, in the past couple of days Gunnybunny has posted 2 real-life "in the news" reports of young teenage kids being the actors in murders. This raised some questions in my mind about "what if" scenarios. It was suggested to me by anther member that I start a thread on this topic in the scenario section. Mods, if you think this is too much of a repeat, please feel free to close or merge the thread
My original question deals with a 13 yr old who coldly murdered an unresisting robber victim. I suggested that perhaps, due to kids not being able to distinguish a "real person" from a video-game/imagination non-person, whether we are actually in MORE danger from a child who doesn't see you as a real flesh-and-blood, living person.
So, here is the scenario: you and your spouse/sig. other, good friend, etc are out, having enjoyed a movie or dinner, etc. Your SA is up as normal. As you are walking to your car, you see a single (one)kid, about 12, walking towards you. He gets within about 10 feet and pulls out a nice shiny, chrome-plated revolver and points it at you and tells you to hand over all your stuff. What do you do now???
This quote post part of my previous comments and musings about this kind of scenarioSo, I value all the collected wisdom and insight here on this forum. Let the comments begin.............Enviroment has a tremendous impact on a child's ability to to perform one of the most critical tasks in the transition from child to adult: this is the ability distinguish the difference between the child's "inner reality" and external, objective outer reality. Let me illustrate: Way back when, while in High School, we had a family move into our small town--one of the kids became a member of my small town high school class. This kid was always perceiving other people as giving him lip or disrespecting him. He would constantly and reflexively interpret a normal disagreement as disrespect. Of course this meant that he got in lots of fights. He later, unsurprisingly, went on to a life of crime and ended up doing hard-time. This kid was unable (or unwilling) to make the emotional growth needed so that he could step back and objectively look at the world around himself and self-evaluate. Good parents should normally be able to help their kids with this process (Johnny--what in the world were you thinking when you did that??)
What I am gettin at here is that the kid in the OP likely does not have that capacity to truly distingiush the REAL difference between shooting somebody in a video game and shooting a real person--they are both just "things" that are not "real" to him. In my mind, this may actually make kids like this much more dangerous.....