This is a discussion on Wierd situation in Grand Rapids tonight within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; An overt threat to beat your ass is called an aggravated assault in most states,if you feel that the individual is capable of carrying out ...
An overt threat to beat your ass is called an aggravated assault in most states,if you feel that the individual is capable of carrying out the threat,as far as instigating the incident in most states once you are confronted and or threatened,and you apologise and try to get away from the confrontation,if the other guy then continues to chase he is now the aggressor.I personally would have called 911 as soon as he threatened me.Just the other day some roadrager killed a guy by hitting him and then slamming his head on the ground
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I think you did well considering what went down. We say things sometimes out of impulse and it comes out to fast, things like that that we just don't think through... Thats fine lesson learned, try not to make comments the best you can to avoid things like that. I give you a 9 out of 10
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If you find yourself in a fair fight your tactics stink.
Well, sorry but I don't think that you did so good. When you start to carry a gun, IMO, you need to leave your ego back at your front door as you leave your house, and don't do or say things that are likely to provoke a confrontation, because the potential consequences of a confrontation while carrying are simply too great to be taking those kinds of risks.
"It does not do to leave a dragon out of your calculations, if you live near him."
J. R. R. Tolkien
I think you did good, the comment about speeding could have been the catalyst for his anger , but anyone else in your party could have said the same thing. It's not like you yelled at him you didn't flag him down, you made a truthful comment. you didn't call him a SOB.
IMO It's always good to stay far away from trouble but you made a comment and it is, what it is.
You need to decide for yourself how you handle similar situations in the future.
Let talk about speeder boy, The fact is continued to escalate the situation by:
1. Turning around
2. Getting out of his car
3. Threatening bodily harm ( This is an assult BTW) "I will beat your f'ing a-- right here,...." & when he told you he would bounce your f'ing head of the concrete.
That is clearly bullsh*t.
A few things here in retrospect (arm chair Quarterback)
You should not have let him get that close, it would have taken no time for him to lunge and be all over you ,ESPECIALLY since he was already threatening bodily harm. You did good by backing up but next time keep more of a distance.
2. Carry pepper spray.
I would have hosed his hostile a$$ down the minute he got within range.. In my situation it would have been disparity of force, I don't want my head bounced of the pavement...EVER. (It has happened before, it was not a situation i could have controlled at that time).
3. Some HTH training
If he would have lunged you could have sent his head bouncing to the concrete. (however this is not always applicable. i.e. disparity of force)
4. Other tools like a knife, flashlight, kunbaton..etc... Again this is not always applicable. i.e. disparity of force.
All that being said its nice to have options, and to use your firearm as the last resort.
In your case, and IMO if he would have continued to come toward you and threaten your life. I would have drawn down on him if he would have escalated.
You carry your firearm to protect your life, and the lives of the one you love right?
I carry a gun to protect myself & the people I love from the Monsters that roam this earth.
i am not one to believe you instigated the incident by saying something....it doesnt warrant him coming back and threatening you...otherwise...i do believe you should have kept your mouth shut but the human condition is to verbalize our feelings now and again...we shouldnt have to worry about getting beaten for it unless we get out of line...thats not justification...its just plain fact...there are times when your mouth may get you into trouble and you deserve it....ive been there and learned from it...
another post where being guncentric comes into play...so many non-life threatening solutions are available to us but the first thing we think about is when it is ok to draw in a situation....
my opinion?...as soon as you noticed him driving toward you a cell phone should have been out, a plate number memorized and pepper spray armed...as he approaches advise you have the police on the phone and you would be happy to allow them to settle any disagreement...a verbal warning to stay out of my space immediately followed by a bathing with pepper spray if he does not conform and continues his aggressive approach...i may even punctuate it with a swift kick to the groin to elliminate mobility and give the police a chance to arrive and take a statement....
i think a cell phone is one of the most handy weapons we have at our disposal and just about everyone carries one today...a hothead with any sembelance of consciousness will back off immediately when the police are involved...if not there will be a recording of your warnings and actions to bolster your statement...
otherwise...great job talking him down...you walked away without a physical encounter and thats a win in my book...
If you are serious enough about defending yourself that you carry a weapon, shouldn't you also learn to fight? I say this because in a situation like yours, if that guy had grabbed you or put you on the ground, you could have been held in a way such that you couldn't immediately get to your weapon. That may sound far-fetched (though not nearly as far-fetched as a lot of the self defense situations people theorize about), but in your situation, that guy was right up in your face and you had to back away to create space to feel comfortable, right? You didn't draw your weapon because he hadn't physically assaulted you yet, hadn't drawn a weapon of his own, or anything like that, right?
So if this douchebag had grabbed you, you probably would have been well served to know how to defend yourself hand to hand at least far enough to get a superior position from which to draw your weapon right? This is why I think anyone serious about defending themselves should find an MMA gym and at the VERY least learn how to box and learn submission grappling or brazillian jiu jitsu/sambo/Judo.
Yep, I have to agree. Don't mouth off to idiots. They aren't smart enough to think that the guy they want to fight might have a gun on him.
STFU in most all of these situations
Stand behind what I say when I override STFU
Your level of instigation fails to warrant some warped sense of Justified Punitive Punishment of grave bodily harm/death from the Benz driver by any reasonable man standard.
Personally, I rather STFU and keep my comments limited to command voice "Stand Down Now" when the situation escalates to the Venn diagram intersection of Ability/Opportunity/Jeopardy.
"No man in the wrong can stand up against a fellow that's in the right and keeps on a-comin."
Texas Ranger Capt William Jessie McDonald
Only thing I would have done diff is go to Silver Bullet and look at some new toys