This is a discussion on Do you have to fight? within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by retsupt99 I'm an old fart... I don't really want to fight anyone... I'm not going to be held against my will... If ...
I carry for that reason, i don't want to get into a situation where anyone, even bare handed, can injure/maim/kill me.
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So do some of you figure you can "de-escalate" when a dozen thugs decide to kill you because you MIGHT have $5 in your wallet, or just because they don't like your color, or maybe just because it will be fun?
Do you figure that "going fetal" and ALLOWING four, or three, or even just one adversary to kick one or both knees into uselessness, or dislocating your shoulder or elbows such that once you wake UP to the fact that the attack will not end before you ARE permanently maimed, dead, or unable to draw your gun or keep it from being taken off you as you bleed on the ground?
Unlike some of you, I don't get into fights as a form of recreation. I don't think I've been in any fights as an adult, just sudden, unprovoked, violent assaults, and attempts to kill me. I really don't like it.
If there is some statute anywhere in these United States that obligates me to endure a sustained battery before I do anything about it, point it out.
I think we have seen enough videos of people getting seriously attacked to know that you cannot count on anybody doing a darn thing to help you.
It is comforting to theorize that incidents happen because an "argument" got "out of hand", or that in some convoluted way, the person who gets killed "had it coming". Most anti-gun people presume that bad things "just don't happen" to good people. Ergo good people don't need guns, and bad people shouldn't have them either.
There are some things that you can control, and some things you CAN'T.
You can be white, live in a "nice" house, not look ostentatiously prosperous, not close bars, not go to 7-11 at 1AM, and if you live long enough, some predator, somewhere may decide you look like food, and bring deadly violence to you. Even if it seems like a "simple" robbery, money may well have little to do with the payoff that he gets by shooting, stabbing, or beating you. You do NOT get to choose what his full motivation is.
I don't get into fights, don't have much in the way of angry conflicts. The situations I've had were out of the blue, and there was not much "dialoging" to be done. We all KNEW why we were there. The incidents lasted SECONDS, from beginning to either escape or defeat.
If you smugly believe that trouble CAN'T come to you unprovoked, then going armed really is just an expensive affectation.
It seems to be a persistent english to english translation problem when people say "fight".
Everyone knows what they are saying but other people only know it from the terms they understand.
You say "fight" and know what you mean...but I can interpret that in many ways. Two idiots who can't control themselves from making rude comments about the other who settle things with fists...a criminal setting up a mark for an approach using conversation to close and engage...an actual criminal assault based on race...
What is a fight to you may be called "criminal action" to someone else, and thus when someone says "I don't fight..." it makes sense to them - but not to you!
Their is a difference between a fight and a criminal attacking you.
The first I don't engage in because I CAN control it.
The second is a random event, and will be responded to with appropriate force (however flexible that is depending on the situation...).
As others have said, I am not looking for a fight, but in a disparaging force condition, I will draw and give you the chance to leave dodge. Elsewise if you press the matter, you and or your partner will get shot and there will not be a lot of talk other than me calling 911 while you are on the ground bleeding out. It it is you alone, you still get shot. You threaten me and I go to condition RED. I do not have to retreat or fight in Georgia or in my home.
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Seriously, this is an interesting dilemma for anyone that carries a deadly force weapon (firearm or knife). The idea of force continuum is all fine in the classroom but on the street, where you happen to be on that continuum can change in a milli-second. An empty hand encounter even with someone that is your match physically can very well be a deadly encounter.
I'm near senior citizen status, have a heart condition and all of 5'6", 155lbs. I've also got eighteen years of MA training and BB's in two martial arts. If somehow I found myself in the situation where I'm back into a corner (all the deescalation options are used up and flight is no longer an option for me) I'm not giving you the luxury of taking the first shot. I'm going to do everything in my power to permanently disable you as quickly and effectively as possible with whatever tools I have available to me.
The OP stated you are backed into a corner. I interpret that to mean you didn't start the incident, you've done everything you can to deescalate and there are no other options but to fight. I don't interpret "fight" as a prizefight. On the street I interpret fight as a confrontation where no rules apply and death or serious injury can occur.
I would agree with the premise that if you stay away from places where stupid people gather to do stupid things you can avoid the vast majority of "situations". On the other hand our "legal" system has sissified our society. You're suppose to kiss butt, take the first punch, wait to see a weapon, etc., etc., etc. following the force continuum. When I hear the story of two kids taken to the principles office after a fight and both students are suspended with no regard for who was the initial aggressor it has me shaking my head. You may not know you're backed into a corner until the corner hits you in the rear end. To paraphrase Kelly McCann the final confirmation that you've been attacked is ... you've been attack. To extend that, the final confirmation that you're facing deadly force is you're dead.
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I agree with you in that if I have tried to leave, de-escalate, etc, I'm not waiting for no bell to start things. Firstus with the mostus.
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I'm 59; no cartilage left in either knee, so escape and evasion is not an option; back back, so getting into a wrestling match isn't going to happen; bad shoulder that pretty much takes the boxing aspect out of the picture; so yeah, like I'm going to open up a fresh can of whoop-ass on some guy.
You want to fight me? Go ahead! I'm fighting for my life--using any tool available--period!
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People who wait to be "Backed into a corner" before acting have a poor understanding of use of force rules, and thus will allow themselves to be placed at a position of grave disadvantage under a mistaken belief they have to be in such a position before taking action and defending themselves.
If people chose to have such a lack of understanding, for whatever reason, so be it.
If people aren't as willing to understand use of force rules as well as learning how to use that force, then they can accept an advantage deficit which accompanies the lack of understanding as well.
Buzzards have to eat, same as worms.
I will run from a fight. I will run for my life, I just won't beg for it. I f in such a dire situation, I will live with the consequences, rather than die with the consequences.