to her i seem strange
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I can tell you she will only be less understanding the ...
January 17th, 2007 10:11 PM
To use female language: She doesn't "get" it and she will never "get" it.
I can tell you she will only be less understanding the longer you are with her and will begin to gripe and chew you out even more often for your "paronoid" behavior.
I see a new girlfriend in your future.
January 17th, 2007 11:38 PM
You aren't weird. We are all pretty much the same way to a greater or lesser extent.
I think the people who go about in condition white all the time are the weird ones. They seem to live, mentally at least, in some fairy tale world where every stranger is a good friend they just haven't met yet and no one will ever hurt them. That isn't crazy, it's down right self-destructive.
If you love her, hang on to her and try to educate her. If she is just a plain old girlfriend, then you may want to cut her loose and find yourself some nice lady who shares your awareness level and understanding of how the real world works.
I think you are doing everything right and should be proud of how you take care of her even if she isn't mature enough to understand it herself.
January 18th, 2007 02:25 AM
Last edited by Kankujoe; January 18th, 2007 at 02:36 AM.
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January 18th, 2007 08:35 AM
She'll come around.
Sounds like a nice talk to air any issues is in order. My wife is more receptive to "precaution" now that I have shown her that it is for her and the children's safety. I try to be as understanding of her perception and have found that appearing "tactical" can actually have an adverse affect. If she is more interested in what you're doing, she cannnot posssibly be aware of the rest of her environment. Perhaps you could persuade her to assist you in keeping an eye on things whenever you're out and this practice will carry over to when you're apart. (Her safety is your priority, isn't it?) And if that happens, then you've solved a plethora of problems....
Last edited by dimmak; January 18th, 2007 at 08:40 AM.
Reason: For the record, I despise the word "tactical"... LOL
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January 18th, 2007 08:54 AM
I think you're strange - most of us would be considered that way, but that's only because we're in the minority.
Head on a swivel, walking down the street and moving out and away from alleyways as we approach, sitting with our back to a wall, and sizing up the room when we enter.
But it's not our fault! Trained, qualified professionals are out there teaching these habits to folks like us every day.
And sadly, many people don't see the benefit of being aware of your surrounding until something bad happens to them.
She may consider you strange, but I think you're doing exactly the right thing.
And btw, although it's polite to let the lady go first entering a restaurant dining room, when someone is taking you to a table; it is also polite to lead the lady out of the room when you finish the meal.
I think you could extend that to leading her to the car - so I'd say your manners are just fine.
January 18th, 2007 09:02 AM
Some women freak out at the mention of a gun.Some have no common sense and will never change. It may be time for a change unless you want to hear about this the rest of your life.
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