This is a discussion on Driving home, late night, flagged down by guy in street within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; sad sign of the times... In the 40s and 50s we stopped for everyone who needed help...we even picked up people who were just 'hitching ...
sad sign of the times...
In the 40s and 50s we stopped for everyone who needed help...we even picked up people who were just 'hitching a ride'.
Now, I just drive on by. A gunfight in a car just doesn't seem practical.
I would have never stopped.
The kind of person that most of us would prefer to help is not a hothead, or one that would yell, or flip the bird at a passer-by or other driver asking what about the situation.
Others have pretty much summed it up. Although I appreciated help from strangers when I was broke down, the days of 'hands-on help' are over. You may never know who you're dealing until it's too late. It's just too risky. Although I am not above jump starting someone in a parking lot while I'm armed. Roadside assistance... That's another story. A quick 911 call can do wonders.
As others have said it is a sad state of affairs that it is too dangerous to stop and help another, but that is the way it is. I have AAA so I do not need to flag anyone down. Best insurance ever. It is jot worth the risk of my safety or my family's. You did fine and more than enough. His response was plenty of justification.
"Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt" ~ Mark Twain
I was actually surprised by the number of people who recently stopped for me when I had a tire shred on me. Normally I would change it myself, but my spare was flat too (learned a valuable lesson about periodically checking my stuff) I waved everyone on that asked if I needed help, AAA was already in route, but one guy stopped and stayed until AAA got there. I'm sure he was just being nice but he offered to drive me to his house where he had a compressor and could fill my spare - he didn't just want to take the tire though and there was no way in hell I was going to get in his car!
I never stop, but I don't know any women who do. I'll jump someone in a parking lot, but I'll never stop on the side of the road!
I've got a small compressor and jump box to help myself and others without disabling my car - just hand them the compressor or box and wait for them to bring it back.
As others have said, it's a shame it has come to this but if it's dark and I don't know them I'm not stopping.
If it's light it depends on when and where and who's with me.
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If you know your literature, you're familiar with Flannery O'Connor's "A Good Man Is Hard to Find." Published in 1955, it's about a killer on the road.
So, look - it's not like there was ever any some Golden Age of Good Times when it was utterly safe and A-OK to pull over and render aid to a stranger on the road. In fact, you can probably go back a couple thousand years and find this same conversation going on.
"Simplissimus, pull not over thine chariot when thou seest a centurion 'pon the road. Verily, thou shalt regret thine error forsooth!"
Not like this is anything new, not like we're now in a new Special Time when we're allowed to be vicious animals who fixate eyes forward, hands on wheel, and run down anything foolish enough to get in the way. If you think like that, then you're a lost cause. Enjoy your embittered sad little life.
Rather, situational awareness is key - as it always has been. You are a smart cookie and you are armed with firepower. So you should use your best judgement and weigh out all the factors available to you. Someone tries to flag you down, your call. The modern urban warrior should be able to render aid when necessary, avoid calamity when prudent.
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With a cell phone, you can still be a good Samaritan without stopping.
You called 911 for help. If he was upset about being out of gas, the cops would have directed him to closest station, or even taken him there (if he didn't show attitude).
If he was a bad guy (more likely), the cops were the only ones who could handle it without serious blowback on you.
The only reason to ever stop is if someones arm or leg is ripped off and you need to stop the bleeding.
That doesn't happen very often.