Problem with that is that you fight like you train . If you carry it in your head you are subject to getting it in another orifice .
Don't get me wrong . I started fighting before I started grade school in WV coal camp area . Continued being a noted brawler
into my late 20's . I fully understand the sentiment . Times change and we have to quit dragging our knuckles to keep up with the times . Responsible , legal concealed carry is just that : we are held to a higher standard of behavior in dealing with dweeds than we are sometimes comfortable with .
If you are going to confront every guy that cals your wife the b word then leave your guns at home.
In my younger days I worked for construction companies and in furniture mills (night shift machine room). Let's just say there were many occasions in which more than just words flew. Times are different now. I am a husband and father, I have a career, and much more to lose. If I'm going to risk it all to get angry and physical over something, it will have to be something darn worth it. Any idiot can say anything, and you can't control what others say...but you can control how you let it affect you. If all they are doing is running their mouth, you can rest assured knowing that at some point someone with a lot less to lose will jump on the opportunity.
My girlfriend is about 5'7" and shes pretty tough. If he did that to her, I would have to protect him. :danceban:
I guess I am not following the posts correctly here. I can't see anywhere that someone said they would respond with deadly force. I think a lot of posters are just reading way too much into the other responses.
Be a real man, walk away.
Or ask him to hug it out :tongue:
(credit pscipio03, of course)
I just want to make it clear, that wanting to "explain" to some punk how NOT to speak to your wife does not mean that you would actually get in a confrontation in real life. On this forum we're allowed to post our secret desires to "educate" some people, despite that in real life most of us would indeed walk away. The 'chest thumping' is men being men. If you can say that you would not be bothered by something like that happening to your wife, then I would say you're probably lying. Getting upset does not mean that you would resort to violence, or lethal force, over words. So, let's not be so quick to judge who is or isn't suited for the responsibility of carrying.
This kinda covers it.
As a gun owner, you have to be cool-headed, more-so than the police ever have to be. You do not ever run around pretending to be the police while carrying a gun because then, stuff like this can happen. You do not start stuff, act aggressively, flip the bird, roll your eyes, talk smack, or even raise your voice to anyone, ever.
A combat instructor (who happened to be Buddhist and a Marine) once said to me:
"From now on, when dealing with (ed.) crazy / possibly violent people, you will lose every argument. You are always wrong. You are sorry for impinging on their day.
You will apologize and apologize again. You will back the heck down. You will put your tail between your legs. You will let them talk stuff about your lady friend. You will let them call your mother a witch and a hooker, your dad a punk.
You have no ego. You do all this because if you are the one to start a fight, by default that fight now has a gun in it, and if you start losing, you're going to pull it and kill him.
Even if you don't go to jail because you could convince the jury that it was self-defense, you're going to have to live with the fact that you took someone's life in defense of your pride and ego not your life.
You are not the police, so don't act like them. Though many of you [civilians] are better shots than the police, you do not have the training, the continuum of force policy, a union, plus free lawyers protecting you if you screw up.
In closing he added “After backing down and trying to apologize, if at any time you then feel your life or that of a loved one is in danger, put three rounds into his [cardiothoracic] vault, call the police, call your lawyer, give a statement, go home, and sleep like a baby. You did all you could for your attacker, and he was the one that made the final decision...... to kill himself."
I guess the bottom line is there is a difference between fantasy (what we'd like to do) and reality (what we would actually do).
My wife has been training Krav Maga for several years now. I would have let her handle it.
I'd say the OP handled it pretty well. It is very interesting to read all the ego responses about escalating the situation. It's clearly the stronger the man who can let words be words and walk away with out a thought of escalation.