Violence at my company party
At my p/t job, we had a company/family party at a local farm and enjoyed hay rides, corn mazes and a cookout. Most of the company went and brought along their spouses and children.
I didn't go, so I missed the excitement. And I'm glad, because I escaped a "what are you going to do" moment. :icon_neutral:
Our receptionist brought along her boyfriend, who brought along alcohol and got drunk and started cursing and yelling at her.... and then proceeded to beat up on her on front of everybody. My boss said he really pounded on her hard.
Luckily, the farm had their own security personnel and the fight was ended. I don't think the cops were called and I don't know how long it took during the beating for security to show up. I'll have to poke around some more to find out all the details.
Most of us know the dangers of getting involved in a third party domestic situation. My co-worker, the victim of the beating, immediately took the side of her boyfriend and defended him. :tired:
I've never bothered to delve into the personal lives of most of my co-workers, but apparently it's come out that she's been abused for a long time. She lives with her boyfriend.
She didn't show up to work today. I imagine she's been thoroughly humiliated and has a bag of ice against her face, and is probably making soft, cuddly noises at her boyfriend, who's probably taking another swing at her right now.
I'm sympathetic, angry, and upset with her for tolerating the abuse, and angry it was visited upon my other co-workers and their kids. The psychological control an abuser has digs in deep. We all want to help, but know it's useless unless she takes the first step.
I'm thinking about what I would have done before I knew security guards were coming. I don't know if my co-workers attempted to intervene physically. With all the children around, I don't think I would have drawn my gun and shot hiim. I also wonder if the victim would have turned on me in defense of her boyfriend if I had tried to physically stop the guy. Seeing how she immediately jumped in to verbally defend him, I think she would have.
I know I would have at least called the police, no matter if she wanted me to, and knowing she would've hated me for it.