Scenario: Why I did not get involved
This incident happened when I was in college. I was sitting in my vehicle in the parking lot of my small, private college while I waited for a friend of mine.
A car pulls up and parks next to me. A blond girl in her early 20s is sitting there, and she looks distressed. Something was not right, because she was not a student of my college (my school is that small). A couple minutes later, another car pulls up, blocking her vehicle. A big guy gets out, storms over to car, and leans in her window. He\'s right in between me and her. My antennae are fully up now.
\"What the f* are you doing here?\" he says.
\"What the f* are you doing here?\" she says.
\"Get outta the f\'in car and come over here and talk to me, b*\" he says.
\"F* of you a*, I don\'t wanna talk to your sorry a*.\"
Neither of them have any clue I\'m sitting in my vehicle right next to them, because I was reclined in my bench seat and didn\'t budge.
I hadn\'t had my carry permit for long. My K40 is in the glove compartment (I have a really cool school president who says it\'s fine).
He leans in her open window and unlocks the door. I sit up straight. If there\'s a scuffle, I was contemplating opening my door, ramming it right into him. She exited the vehicle and walked over to his car with him. He was wrenching her arm.
They\'re both profusely cursing at each other.
He has his hand around her throat now. He wasn\'t choking her, it was more intimidation and dominance. I was sitting bolt upright now, and my adrenaline started to pump. Should I get out and shout at him? Honk? Call the police? Get my gun and do what next?
He suddenly looked straight over at me and stopped talking. He suddenly realized that I had been watching the entire time, and I was staring intently at him. I think my hand might\'ve been on the door. He let go of her throat.
I saw my friend pulling into the lot.
They exchanged a few more unsavory words with each other, and then he got into his car and left.
I saw the girl talk to my friend for a few minutes, and then she left. When I asked my friend about what happened, she said the girl was an aquaintance of hers and was there to borrow money from her. Her (obviously) psycho ex-boyfriend stalks her, and this kind of confrontation was apparently not the first. She says her acquiantance isn\'t so smart and she doesn\'t want to have much to do with her.
A couple months later, my friend updated me on the story. The two had some more reconciliations and break-ups, the most recent was him peeping through her windows and then storming away, and she chasing him across the yard and hitting him. He wheels around and forces her to her knees and sticks a gun to her head. He threatens her and leaves.
So I hope you can see why I did not get involved. I will help those in need, because if I was in need and unable to help myself, I would appreciate aid. I wouldn\'t walk away from woman being raped or a person caught in a car accident.
The issue here was if the person wanted aid.
It\'s hard to determine something like that, and it\'s hard to determine what exactly is going on in a scenario you don\'t know all the details of. But when I saw that man walk up to her window and her demeanor matched his, I felt that there was more here than an innocent victim being confronted by an angry man. I\'ve heard enough stories from cops about responding to a domestic violence incident, and the victim attacking them as they try to drag her attacker away. And I felt that was going to happen here.
If it turned into a fight, I would\'ve called the police, but as for actual physical intervention, I\'ll have to answer that if I\'m ever in that situation again.