Scenerio: Domestic violence prevention/protection
Decided to post here instead of the "Have you ever been a victim thread" to see what others come up with.
First I'll give the scenario, then I'll post later what really happened. This is a true life scenario that happened to me.
I'm living in a two story townhouse in a neighborhood. The back porch is small, 10' X 10' and fenced in with a parking lot/basketball court behind that. No fence in front.
My roommate is dating this girl. Girl is not living with us, it's just me and roommate. It's night and one of my other friends is over watching TV with us.
My roommate comes home with girlfriend and they go upstairs. A little bit later they both come back downstairs. My roommate who is bigger and stronger then me says he needs help. Girlfriend's jealous ex-boyfriend is making threats. Girlfriend doesn't want to go home because she is scared. Neither roommate nor girlfriend can afford a hotel and niether has family in town.
They have already called the police but the police won't do anything about the ex unless he actually commits a crime, police won't come over to where we are unless ex actually shows up. Girlfriend can now get a protection order (we know that's worthless), but not until the morning when the courts are open.
1. Does the jealous ex show up if he knows there are at least two guys in the house with the girl?
2. How do you set up an impromtu safe house?
3. What do you do if the jealous ex shows up?
Nothing to do, except act normally
Unless you are a LEO, in which case you would know what to do, you just act normally. Keep the girl at your house and keep the house secure.
If you are not a sworn law enforcement officer, you have no other recourse. What is it that you expected to happen? That some monster was going to come and you were going to valiantly save the day? That happens only in movies and to others. In real life, you are held to a higher standard and YOU BETTER NOT TRY TO DEFEND THIS WOMAN WITH YOUR GUN.
Close the doors and windows and go about your business as usual. If, and only if, this creep tries to break into your home, then you can defend YOUR HOME from an unwanted invader, just like any other who tries to break in.
Suggest to the girl that she needs to break all ties with this man. Tell your roommate that he needs to be careful and watch how he defends his new girl. (she may still have feelings for this old flame and actually feel 'special' that someone "loves her this much" that he would stalk her. Stranger things happen all the time.) Your primary allegiance is to yourself and your home. Secondary, you might want to help out this "bigger and stronger" roommate if it doesn't cause YOU to go to jail or get yourself killed.
So, lock the door, pull the window shades and act normally. If this creep wants to break in, then you have to defend YOUR home from unwanted invaders. You are not going to jail because you have a gun and this poor ex-boyfriend was shot trying to "just talk" to his ex. The news and family will paint you as a gun-nut and this jealous man as some altar boy who just loves his girl and was attacked.