Shady new neighbor

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    Shady new neighbor

    Hello, it's been awhile since I posted here, not sure if anyone will remember me, but something has really been bothering me for about the past 4 weeks. I live in a small apt(for now plan on moving). My last neighbors who were a wonderful couple moved, and unfortunately a shady character came in where they left off. I believe this guy lives alone, but I'm not too sure as he usually has different people over at any given time. I usually try to keep to myself when it comes to guys, unless they are with their woman or kid(s), like my last neighbor, and I don't feel there is even a possibility of flirting or whatever.

    Anyway everytime I see him he just stares, I don't mean a glance here and there, I mean he follows me with his eyes. I usually keep my blinds open until it gets dark, and one day when was walking back from checking his mail, I could see him slow down while looking into my apart. I was in the kitchen and I just stood still b/c I didn't want him to know I was watching him looking in. Plus I wanted to make sure I wasn't being paranoid and that it was actually my place he was looking in. He's already asked to borrow something once, and he just seemed a little too nosey for my taste. He also invited me up for some ''get together'' in which I declined. There is also another thing that is very creepy. I know the walls are thin and you can hear just about everything in apartments, but i swear I think he plays his porn loud on purpose. It will be like 11pm and all the sudden I'm hearing LOUD porn. When I pass him, he doesn't just say hello, but hello darling or hello gorgeous.

    I really want to convey to this guy that I carry, but I don't know how. I just want to ask if he sounds like someone I should be on the lookout for, or am I looking too deep?

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    he sounds like someone to avoid. the porno thing, the staring, the unwanted advances- all sound like signs you should heed. i would not tell him you had a gun. i would tell everyone it is reasonable to tell- landlord, other neighbors, police you know- about your concern. increase security until you move. keep the blinds closed. can you get a dog? vary your routine a bit.
    good luck.
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    Six for sure...Uh, I mean Five. Five for sure..

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    Well, one thing's for sure---you need to quit leaving your blinds open for folks to see in. Secondly---your neighbor doesn't sound shady at all, you just sound insecure. It's quite possible he--is it a he or she? Are you a he? Just don't want to offend anyone in that respect ya know? Depending on the real situation, you'll either trigger the key to turn them off, or keep them wondering. A person should never want to let the cat out of the bag that they carry. You will impress no-one by doing so, you'll only compromise your position. In an apartment complex things like this can spread like wildfire, and if they do---you'll end up on the short end of the stick no matter what. I just don't understand--(seeing several related threads) why someone feels compelled to tell the world they have a concealed carry permit. WHY for God's sake? Can anyone tell me? Is it some sort of guilt thing or what? Forgive me--there's just no way I can understand this concept. Really!

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    Welcome back!
    My first obvious answer is :Move Out!
    My Second is: Do Not Show your Trump Card.. If he gets stupid, surprise him with well placed shots to his anatomy. No need to forewarn him that you are armed. Obviously do not let your guard down & secure all points of entry as much as you can.

    See if you can get his full name and DOB. Maybe you state has a website like Florida where felons are posted. The more info you can get on him, the better.
    Depending on the fella, a verbal confrontation in front of witnesses may do the trick and force him to back down: "Hey idiot! What part of NO you don't get?" Stop harassing me or I will call the cops on you!"
    Other option is for you to play crazy. Talk to yourself, act nutty in front of him (face twitching is one of my favorites) anything that may make this guy say This Chick is crazy... Hell no!
    You have to make the shot when fire is smoking, people are screaming, dogs are barking, kids are crying and sirens are coming.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ram Rod View Post
    Well, one thing's for sure---you need to quit leaving your blinds open for folks to see in. Secondly---your neighbor doesn't sound shady at all, you just sound insecure. It's quite possible he--is it a he or she? Are you a he? Just don't want to offend anyone in that respect ya know? Depending on the real situation, you'll either trigger the key to turn them off, or keep them wondering. A person should never want to let the cat out of the bag that they carry. You will impress no-one by doing so, you'll only compromise your position. In an apartment complex things like this can spread like wildfire, and if they do---you'll end up on the short end of the stick no matter what. I just don't understand--(seeing several related threads) why someone feels compelled to tell the world they have a concealed carry permit. WHY for God's sake? Can anyone tell me? Is it some sort of guilt thing or what? Forgive me--there's just no way I can understand this concept. Really!

    I don't keep them open at night, only day because I like natural light, and plus I tend to get SAD in the winter months. I am female he is male, and I guess people want others to know they carry, so they won't be messed with.

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    Go easy Ramrod, look at the original posters name Ms. K & the fact a guy called her 'darling' & ' gorgeous'....it's easy to tell she's a woman!

    She's just looking for a way to politely tell this scum bag to keep his eyes & comments to himself. This is not good social behavior on his part.

    Be careful & stay alert....Miggy's suggestions aren't bad either.
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    Sounds like he is being the standard dorky guy...I guess I would be straightforward and upfront...leave him a note or tell him to his face that you have other interests...and to tone down the porn...it is bothering all the neighbors...and manager.

    Rick

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    Just put a bunch of those rainbow stickers on your door and windows...

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    Shades open during the day with NO interior lighting pretty much conceals ypur movements as long as creep face does not have his icky face pasted to one of your windows...as for letting him know you carry, NO WAY NOT NO HOW! As it was stated, do not show your trump card, yet anyway. Get what info on him you can, as was mentioned. Use this as good training for your situational awareness, be alert!!!!

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    People knowing someone carries doesn't always keep people from getting messed with, it may just change how the BG plans their move. Since BGs don't have normal thought processes they will think if they plan it correctly then the will have a victim and a gun. Another thing is that if he knows you carry then it ups the chances that he will break into your place looking for weapons since most who carry have more than one.
    Why walk softly and carry a BIG stick when a BIG GUN is more efficient and you can walk however you want to?

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    To answer your question YES keep your distance and be careful. And stay armed even when at home. and never tell anyone that your carrying. If the guy were to find out that you carry your firearm, and he were to try something he would know in advance what to expect and would possibly be able to have a counter attack plan and the situation could end up bad for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alphadeziac View Post
    Another thing is that if he knows you carry then it ups the chances that he will break into your place looking for weapons since most who carry have more than one.

    Hmm, never thought of it that way,good point.

    I know to others it probably sounds like I'm making a mtn out of a molehill, but it wasn't that long ago that I went thru something that I never want to go through again!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by AZ Husker View Post
    Just put a bunch of those rainbow stickers on your door and windows...
    Classy!


    I'd complain to the manager about the porn noise as it happens. If its 2 am, call. If you cant get anyone at that hour, call the police. I'd also speak with the manger about this guy, a lot of times they might spill some beans giving you insight on what this guy is all about.
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    Go easy Ramrod, look at the original posters name Ms. K & the fact a guy called her 'darling' & ' gorgeous'....it's easy to tell she's a woman!
    One can never assume anything these days with the way things are. I still live in reality, much as I hate to admit that sometimes. Surely Ms. K can convey the ultimate message to this possible weirdo--that she is not available, and not willing to take any more of the guy's 'in-passing' comments. By all means--shut the iron curtain! Or move as previously suggested.
    Go easy?
    I guess people want others to know they carry, so they won't be messed with.
    I reckon I'll state my humble, honest opinion on that-------seems like there are better ways of doing that. I never went and got my CCW permit with the intentions of thwarting bullies. Never compromise your tactics or position unless there is no other course. Plain and simple. Y'all go ahead and argue amongst yourselves now. I'll post no further replies to this thread as no need to further support my position.

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    I say some well placed pepper spray next time he makes a comment will allow him to get the message :) LOL J/K. Just be as rude and short with him as you possibly can, he'll get the message.

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