"Well, at Defensivecarry.com they said..." will probably not be a very convincing defense.
If anything, use what is posted here and the links posted here as a guideline in your search to your local laws and ordinances.
The other reason I mention this is because while we will try to be as accurate as possible, and while you may try to present the story as fairly and accurately as possible, it is impossible for us to know the entire situation. And impossible for us to know what evidence an investigator might turn up.
Good luck and I hope some of our advice here will allow you to more easily put this situation behind you.
And the best advice given so far is to move when funds are available. It sounds like you aren't in the best of neighborhoods.