This is a discussion on How closely should I be watching this individual? within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by Resurgam What did Christ say we should do in such a situation? Matthew 18:15-17 - 15. Moreover if thy brother shall trespass ...
Here's a question.
If you were to follow the passage in Mathew, do you have a responsibility to go to the woman who used you and confront her with it?
Barbary, as a woman, I'm ticked at what she did. You should pull her aside one time, and quietly tell her she did a rotten thing, and how would she like it if a man did that to her?
It may not change anything,... or she may learn something worthwhile.
And I hope that other guy believes her, or you could still be in trouble.
The BTK killer was an honest church going man. Church dosn't make killers into saints
Have not read this the whole thread yet, but what is going on with the people that this guy talking to? They are members of your church too right? Don't they have any ethics or sense of responsibility? If his guy did say what you heard and they did or said nothing without being asked. As soon as I caught my girl, we'd find another church to attend. Obviously there is something wrong with any church were members think it is OK to openly talk about carving someone up. Especially when he is right, as no one acts on his threats or puts him in check. Either the church has lost its way or its message is not being heard either way not a very spiritual place IMO. As to the rest I think everyone has it covered verify, confirm with witnesses and act as a unified force. Have a restraining order.
Last an aside, is it possible that maybe the guy is hearing something different from your lady than what she is telling you?
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Well, I think you should talk to her, but be careful. I'm the king of jumping the wrong conclusions re women and finding out what I saw as sketchy was really innocence -- and the only sketchy thing was my suspicion.
I would also say you probably should still talk to the guy, ala Matthew 18 (and in a public place)... the threat (if that's what it was) didn't cease to exist because of changed circumstances... But, again, who knows if you didn't overhear something totally different. Maybe he said, "It's sticking knives into me" -- aka it's killing me... rather than wanting to stick knives into y'all....
Stay safe, keep your head about you, go in peace...
"War necessarily brings with it some virtues, and great and heroic virtues too. What horrid creatures we men are, that we cannot be virtuous without murdering one another?" -John Adams
yep... some women will tell you things, just so the 2 of you are at odds and don't talk and compare notes.
I agree "go talk to him" but NOT privately. Have your SS teacher maybe with you, someone who knows you both, but doesnt take sides. DON'T do this along, not for fear of attack, but to confirm what both of you said. And yes, I would keep one eye on him going forward at least until you feel this is all settled.
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I wouldn't be talking to him..... unless it was to let the guy understand she was playing them both..... and wish him luck... because he was buying into her deception as well.
Sounds like you are much better off, without her in your life. Honesty, is kind of important in a relationship.
Why do women always say they want to "be friends" . My Ex... of 10 yrs now, still thinks we should be "friends". I keep telling her I divorced for a reason, and it's wasn't so we could be friends..... don't want anything to do with her. She can go find "friends" somewhere else.
The way things are today I take any threat serious.This is how things can get out of hand and lead to bigger problems such as a killing. Like they say,there were a lot of signs before a killing and no one followed up on them. People want to mind their own business and not get involved but with a threat of this kind someone should. I would at least talk to the Pastor and let him try to resolve any problem this person might have. This is better then (what if or if only I had done this) after a tragedy has happened.