1. Even some crazy people need to work.
2. Sometimes work is an avenue to pursue other pursuits.
3. Some people call me paranoid. I call it being survival oriented.
I think you did fine. We can't be engaged 100% of the time; we'd blow a gasket.
Yes it's nice to have a wife that carries. On the other hand, if your wife lives in a mystical place, at least make it a positive, and enjoy the optimism. And you exactly know why you're there, to protect her.