I am engaged and have been for four years. I have been holding off in hopes that my fiancé will change in the areas of his relationship with the Lord (desiring to pursue Him) and being financially stable. ... Since being with him, he has been in several new business pursuits and hasn't had a job for over 20 years. He is struggling terribly financially and will not look for a job. He believes if he were to get a full time job, he wouldn't be able to devote the attention he needs to develop his business. ... I am divorced and was married for 24 years. My fiancé is 52 years old and has never been married.
...[mentions he's been late on paying child support, and went to jail once for it; also he had his driver's license suspended twice]
...[voicing concern about upcoming breakup talk]
...He always says he is an orphan and has no family and I'm the only one which is a huge burden to put on me to perform to a level I'm not capable of. I am a little nervous. Please pray for me
Since then, he has called me 9 times and left two voicemail messages. I will not take his calls.... He won't stop calling me even as I've asked him to give me space. ... He seems really afraid about me leaving him and said he would do whatever he needed to do. He said he wanted to get counseling with our pastor or senior mentors regarding this issue. I called the senior mentors and am waiting for a return call.
I am choosing to take a stand
Well it's been almost 2 weeks since I broke up with him. He has repeatedly called asking for another chance, stating things are going to change, that he loves me and will not let me go. I don't know what the "will not let me go" phrase actually means. I will say sometimes it's a little scary because I'm not sure where he might go with feeling this rejected. He has never hurt me, put his hands on me or abused me verbally; however, he almost appears to be a stalker.
... When he calls me, I let the answering machine pick up. He leaves long messages about having to tell me something funny to why haven't you called me, this is not like you. I told him I needed space and that the telephone is included in that. He finally said last night that he won't call me for two days but if I called him, he would be available but would give me two days. He's going to give me two days -- I said no, I need space, please don't call me. He said I believe you might leave me and I can't have that, that he will do whatever it takes to keep me. What does that mean? I won't lie and say I'm not a tadbit concerned.
Last night, he called me 5 times within a 3 hour period, 3 of those times were text messages. It was almost like harrassment.
I don't know but I am praying, saving my text messages, and telling my girlfriends about his bizarre behavior.