Tried to get my wife to carry tonight
This is a discussion on Tried to get my wife to carry tonight within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; My wife was teasing me the other day about whether this was me since I happen to also have a silver BMW. She then told ...
February 6th, 2009 10:43 PM
Tried to get my wife to carry tonight
My wife was teasing me the other day about whether this was me since I happen to also have a silver BMW. She then told me they struck again today. I used this as an opportunity to say "Honey, I really think you should get your carry permit". To that she replied, "Yeah right, what am I going to do when a guy's got a gun pointed at me"? Here's the link for the first stickup. Ok guys(gals), what should my response have been?
2 Wanted in Armed Robbery at Mall|abc27 News
February 8th, 2009 01:10 PM
tell the guy to politely look down cause sees got hers pointed at his nuts.bang
February 8th, 2009 02:52 PM
Tell her to reach in her bag and ask if he has change for a .45?
Seriously though. We don't live in a world of what if anymore. We live in a world of what is.
I took a self defense course a while back and the point was made that women are less likely to defend themselves when they are on their own. However in the same situation if one of their kids is involved, the inner MAMA BEAR in her will come out and she will fight with her life to defend her kids.
The instructor put a twist on self defense in saying -- a woman needs to think about what will happen to her family if she is hurt or killed in an attack, who will take care of her children, or her husband or even her pets? She needs to channel the same Mama Bear response in defending her kids -- if it comes to defending herself.
In being prepared to defend herself, she IS DEFENDING her family. If she can think of self defense in that manner, she might be more willing to take more of an active role in protecting herself. That was the message I needed to hear and understand.
I've posted this before, but here it is again: one time I had my little dog Lily with me when I went to fill up at a gas station. I saw a panhandler milling around and knew he was probably going to approach me. Getting prepared for the confrontation, I left my wallet in the car and only took out my debit card (in case he was going to try to rob me). I put the keys in my pocket (in case he was going to try to car jack me). I left the car door ajar (in case I needed to get back in) but not open all the way like I normally would have (to create a barrier between me and him), because my Lily was in there and I didn't want to risk her jumping out.
I was so IN TO trying to decide how to deflect his approach, that when he rounded the pump and quietly said "Excuse me...", he startled the crap out of me. I jumped forward and put my hand up in a stop gesture and ROARED -- 'LEAVE ME ALONE" from the pit of my stomach. I really had to have sounded like a crazy woman. He jumped back because my reaction was a little over the top (and I can laugh about it now)... and he backed off saying "Im sorry" and he left.
I added all that because having Lily with me that day made the difference in how I responded. And it was a turning point for me too, recalling what our instructor said about defending our kids. In the back of my mind, I was afraid if he tried to take the car, he would have my precious little dog.
Before that day, I don't believe I was mentally prepared to defend myself. It was a turning point of sorts. Luckily it wasn't a serious situation and I did get a funny story out of it!
February 8th, 2009 04:32 PM
Response: "I don't want you to become a victim...I don't want you to be hauled off somewhere, raped, and then murdered. I want you to be able to defend yourself. I won't be able to be with you every minute of the day/night. Crime is increasing everywhere and criminals don't give you advance notice that they're going to strike."
Originally Posted by MP45Man
"I'm not fluent in the language of violence, but I know enough to get around in places where it's spoken."
February 8th, 2009 06:07 PM
Tell her while he has a gun pointed at her to comply until he doesn't have a gun pointed at her and then draw and shoot til the threat is over,the above scenario requires practice and concealing a weapon on your person not in the purse
"Outside of the killings, Washington has one of the lowest crime rates in the country,"
--Mayor Marion Barry, Washington , DC .
February 8th, 2009 07:02 PM
Very good response.
Originally Posted by dukalmighty
Tell your wife that you want her to be able to defend herself even when you are not there. That you wouldn't want to live without her. And that if she were kidnapped, raped, murdered and dumped in a ditch somewhere that it would tear you apart thinking "what if she had been able to fight back".
The gun is the great equalizer. It makes a 90 pound female able to fight off a 300 pound male rapist as easily as if she were the same size and strength as he.
Ask her why she values her life so little that she isn't willing to use every tool she can to protect it so she will be there to grow old with you. That will put a charge in her.
February 8th, 2009 09:26 PM
I told my wife that I will not always be there to protect her. That she has a responsibility to defend herself and those she is with. She got her CWP and we made a big deal out of how she was going to carry. After a lot of lookie, feelie, touchie, that was very time consuming, we purchased a nice shoulder strap purse that carries a S&W 642 very nicely. Patience, patience, patience.
February 8th, 2009 09:57 PM
As one member's signature states: "I carry a gun because I can't carry a cop".
I agree wih the posts above. My wife would never consider carrying, even though we have been robbed (house) 2x, and the first time she walked in on them. I wish I could change her mind.
February 9th, 2009 12:44 AM
My wife is the same also-we have dogs and she has a false sense of security that the dogs will stop anybody. Our dogs are protective but as evrybody here knows if someone wants in bad enough-they're gonne get in no matter what-that's where the SD firearm comes into play. Good Luck.
February 9th, 2009 01:44 AM
my wife is a junior high teacher, she has been threatened by a student and I still can't convince her to carry. Utah laws are great, pro arms, pro carry, but still nothing. I guess I need some help getting her to realize it's a good idea.
February 9th, 2009 09:58 AM
Things are the other way around in this house, hubby thinks he should get his turn when he gets home, and sometimes he does. One or both of us is carrying one of 4 weapons
I can't fathom why a woman wouldn't want to protect herself and her loved ones, it's a job I take seriously, as a parent and a wife.
Disclaimer: The posts made by this member are only the members opinion, not a reflection on anyone else, nor the group, and should not be cause for anyone to get their undergarments wedged in an uncomfortable position.
February 10th, 2009 12:26 AM
It's tough to get people to take responsibility. With some training and the permit, hopefully she could see the BG during his set-up. Then she wouldn't be forced to deal with him at arms length. It's good to have choices, gun, knife, etc..
February 10th, 2009 01:50 AM
Tell her what my husband told me...
"By that time, it's too late. I'm sorry, honey, but if you let it get that far, you're done for."
Now, he was just trying to get me thinking because we both believe that the fight's not over until they put us in the ground (and even then we better be really dead) but the point of saying that to me was to get me to think.
I was expecting him to give me this big long explanation about maneuvers or options and he pretty much said, "You're dead, baby."
It made me realize that I need to take steps to AVOID that from happening rather than trying to react to a worse-case scenario.
His response also enticed me to get more training and be better prepared for the worse-case.
February 10th, 2009 09:44 PM
Originally Posted by limatunes
Every time I see one of your youtube clips I wish my wife had your attitude !!!
If every guy on here was to watch your M4 takedown I think they would see just how ready their wives could be.
An armed citizen is a protected citizen.
"The price of freedom is eternal vigilance." -Thomas Jefferson
February 11th, 2009 12:58 AM
Awesome! Simply Awesome!
Originally Posted by MrsFosforos
Thanks for sharing that one. A very good point to make and great story to illustrate the point!
"The gun is the great equalizer... For it is the gun, that allows the meek to repel the monsters; Whom are bigger, stronger and without conscience, prey on those who without one, would surely perish."
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