First Time Process Serving.. and it's an ex-felon family member

This is a discussion on First Time Process Serving.. and it's an ex-felon family member within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by silo Oh, is that all? I'll ask the lawyer today how much it'd be. At this point, I'd pay it myself just ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by silo View Post
    Oh, is that all? I'll ask the lawyer today how much it'd be. At this point, I'd pay it myself just to not have to do it.
    Even if the cost is four times that at $100 or $200...so what?!

    How much is your life and health care worth to you? To your family? To your wife and son?

    Think about that.
    Then break out your charge card and pay someone else to risk their neck, for what is effectively several tanks of gas or 1/5th cost of an ambulance ride.

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    First rule of a gunfight...don't be there. Pay the process server.

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    If you want to help your sister out, put put the 25-50 bucks to have LE serve them for you/her. Keeps your nose clean, and solves a lot of problems. Don't be a hero....
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    Serve Papers

    Quote Originally Posted by BIKERIDER View Post
    Pay a server to do it. What will it cost? $25.00-$50.00?
    I'll echo this response. I would pay a neutral third party to serve the divorce papers to your brother in law. Even with a LEO escort it could get very messy.

    In light of the fact that your brother in law is an ex-felon, I would air on the cautious side under these circumstances.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LethalStang View Post
    Call the Sheriff's department to escort you. If he has a gun then they will just haul him off to jail anyway.
    ^^^^^Yup^^^

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    Great advice, everyone, and I'm taking it. Told her I won't do it, and I'd even pay to have it done by the Sheriff myself. It'll take about a week (ridiculous) instead of tomorrow, as she wanted, but she understood.

    I wouldn't mind calling in the guy for the gun and whatnot, but at the same time I don't want him coming after me and my family when he gets out. Suicide threats were secondhand, and she won't alert anyone for it, either. We also don't particularly care, but that's beside the point.

    Anyway, I really appreciate the advice. Just needed some others to kick me in the ass and rethink my promise. Hate to go back on my word, but she understands, and it'll work out much better this way.

    Thanks, everyone.

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    Tape them around an arrow and shoot it into his front door,when he opens the door to see what the bang was,yell out you been served,then haul it outta there
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    Thumbs up

    +1 lol I'm rolling over the arrow in the door and yelling! Moutain dew went out my nose!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Orange Boy View Post
    First rule of a gunfight...don't be there. Pay the process server.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BIKERIDER View Post
    Pay a server to do it. What will it cost? $25.00-$50.00?
    Quote Originally Posted by WHEC724 View Post
    Are you sure there's no way that somebody else can't serve the papers? Like you said, there's a lot more than your personal safety at stake here...

    I also live with an anti, and my job includes managing subdivisions (enforcing covenants), managing rental properties (evictions), and managing commercial property (prosecuting thieves). There's a long list of people who wish me harm. To the extent that you can minimize your list, the better.

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    I'd be taking a step back and letting a process server do it ,someone who HE Doesn't Know, and WANT to get retribution (payback) for. Even if He's Incarcerated or the like, He will have some thugniks of his come by at a most inopportune time, and get the PaYBaCk

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    Quote Originally Posted by silo View Post
    So I was asked two days ago by my sister to serve her husband the divorce papers.

    ... to save a little money she asked me to serve him the papers.

    So of course my wife thinks it's a bad idea to serve him the papers. Retrospectively, I should have said no. But it's a bit late now.
    It's a bit late, but you have not yet actually served the papers?

    Seems to me you can simply retract your ill-advised agreement and have her pick another option. Saving money is fine, but if it puts you and others into the direct line of fire, what's the point? If it's money, you can pool together cash from a few family members, if that's the only real issue.

    Personally, I'd go the standard route: have the serving of papers be done by an experienced group that is well-aware he is an ex-felon, known to be armed, known to be abusive. That experienced group will almost certainly decide on an armed escort for the serving. But it seems to me this is all better than giving the felon one more excuse to hate the family with deadly intentions, which is what would be the case if you personally were to be the one serving the papers.

    By the way, document all that y'all know about this creature and his actions. If you've got intel that he's armed, it would seem to me that the police would want to know this. That, alone, might be enough to get the sod back into a cell. Certainly, any threats might be.

    Either way, it seems your family is in dire danger. Caution, at all times. Take whatever precautions you can, 'cause he sounds like a real winner who is perfectly capable of executing whatever plans he might have, even if that involves executing a family member or two.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silo View Post
    I wouldn't mind calling in the guy for the gun and whatnot, but at the same time I don't want him coming after me and my family when he gets out.
    I would definitely make aware to the police or sheriff that its possible he does have a gun so they can have a heads up when serving the papers. It may even be grounds for a probably cause search of his place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LethalStang View Post
    I would definitely make aware to the police or sheriff that its possible he does have a gun so they can have a heads up when serving the papers. It may even be grounds for a probably cause search of his place.
    Might not be a bad idea to call the tip line. I'm all for giving the cops whatever info I have.. just hate that it's so close to home, and I don't want to see anyone get hurt.

    At the very least I think I'll leave an anonymous tip and let them do with it what they please. That way they know going into it, when they serve the papers, that he might be armed.

    This might actually work out to be a good opportunity to change my anti wife, though. As I said previously, she's very, very anti. Has no idea I even have the gun. She's even said, "If you brought home a gun, you'd be sleeping at your parents.'" When I told her I told my sister I wouldn't serve the papers but instead pay for them to be served, our text conversation (she's at work):

    Her: "Good.. he's scary.. We'll need to make sure we have all our doors locked."
    Me: "...Which is why I'd like you take you to the range. You'll see it's extremely safe, and you could shoot something like a 22. Literally zero recoil."
    Her: "Lol.. you are seriously losing your mind... I would end up crying... I will never handle a gun. But thanks anyway."
    Me: "Sweetie your perception is just wrong lol not every gun has recoil and a big bang. A 22 is like a bb gun with a bullet. No recoil, TINY bang. I'll get you out there."

    No response, but I'm hoping this situation changes her perception about guns and home safety.

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