Know the Area/Situation is Risky? Google Map It!
This is a discussion on Know the Area/Situation is Risky? Google Map It! within the Carry & Defensive Scenarios forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; So, as I stated in one of my old threads , my sister is going through a very messy divorce with, of all people, a ...
February 10th, 2010 10:34 PM
Know the Area/Situation is Risky? Google Map It!
So, as I stated in one of my old threads, my sister is going through a very messy divorce with, of all people, a felon. I was supposed to serve him the papers, but heeded the good advice of the people here and didn't do it. Since then he's been very bipolar with his communication, sometimes saying, "I love you so much, bla bla" while immediately following it up with, "If you could get your head out of your ass you'd see that I'm the only one who will ever love you." Nice guy, eh?
For a month now my sister has been moving out of their house. Before the papers were served (by someone else, of course), she was able to get everything together, and since he has been "traveling" (we really don't know) she's been able to get to the house and move stuff out in the meantime.
About two or three weeks ago my dad and I, along with one of her employees at work, went to the house and got some big stuff, like her piano, and some clothes and stuff. Unfortunately she, despite being 10 years older, has the maturity and insight of someone half MY age, and she didn't take all of her stuff while she had three men and a truck there. So she's been going back when he wasn't there and getting more of her stuff (and her stuff only). Since then he's said some threatening things, doing the same bipolar talk, and saying he took her off the lease, which he can't do without her signature (and, for that matter, wouldn't be advantageous in a divorce proceeding). Did I already mention he's a conman felon who is a pathological liar?
In order to get everything -- and I mean EVERYTHING -- out of the house, she recruits me to help her since I'm the only one with an SUV that would carry her outrageously ginormous jewelry cabinet. I told her only today would work, and to meet me at noon. And I confirmed he was "out of town" before committing to this.
I got there at 11:59a. I noticed while going up the driveway that the snow hadn't been bothered, so it was extremely likely he hadn't been back there in at least three or four days, since it snowed. I backed up to the garage and sat. The neighbor, who we were told the soon-to-be-ex-husband told him that she was now off the lease, came out his front door a little bit with his dog on the leash, and I tried to look relatively conspicuous just by playing with my cell phone. I then got a text from my sister, with a call immediately afterward, saying she was an hour away. I should have known, as she has the responsibility level of a.. well.. I don't even know who is that irresponsible. So I called my mom to crab a little, and she suggested I go to the nearby bookstore since I was in the area. Great idea!
So while I'm perusing some great books at the outlet mall, I get a call from my sister. "He said the cops are on the way." OK, so I know the neighbor called him. I said, "What do you want me to do, then?" And she said, "Go home, I guess." To which I responded, "No. We're getting the stuff and getting out. For one thing, he's a liar, and he's just trying to control you. He thinks he can intimidate you by saying the cops are coming. He didn't call the cops. And for another thing, even if the cops came, that is still your house. He's lying to you about the lease, and that address is still on your driver's license. Meet me here, and we'll go together and just get the stuff." An hour later, we met up and were on our way.
I got up the driveway quickly, not even noticing that the neighbor's truck was now gone (as my sister later noted). This is a one-lane driveway of, oh, maybe 100 yards, and is shared with the very neighbor who called the idiot. She parked her car a little up the driveway, which was good enough, I thought, since it's snowy and I didn't want it getting stuck. I wanted to get in-and-out very quickly, and she confirmed there were only three things I needed to get: the jewelry box and two end tables. Of course that wasn't it, and there were also a basket of more baskets, some pictures, clothes, some boxes, a blanket, and some other misc items which were obviously hers.
She then decided she wanted to move her car up some so she didn't have to walk as far to load her car. Bad idea, I thought, but she moved it up so that it didn't block the driveway for me, any longer, but in the meantime did set off her car alarm and turned on the radio loudly, surely drawing attention to us. Yes, idiotic.
We get everything loaded up, and as I'm walking back to my SUV from the house to leave, I notice the red truck oddly backing out of his small driveway. By oddly I mean that he was backing out in the opposite direction than if he was leaving since the driveway was one-way and so was the street off of which the driveway jutted. I then realized what he might be doing: blocking us in.
I get in my SUV quickly and get down the driveway pretty quickly. He then backs up oddly again, and speeds up to get up the driveway to try to block me from getting out where the driveway bottlenecks with a treeline. I then make the quick decision to swerve over into a nearby neighbor's driveway which, from what I remembered from when I came there before and it wasn't snowy, was very close to my sister's driveway, and start going down the road.
Of course now my immediate thought is, "I wonder how my sister is going to get out." She, unbeknownst to me, had gotten a little stuck in the snow, just as I expected, and had to rock the car back and forth a bit (forward-reverse-forward-reverse, etc), and got free. She too barely made it out before the rather large truck closed the bottleneck. She, moronically, flipped him off as she left. Fortunately, he didn't pursue.
As an aside, she then calls me and says, "That was awesome! I almost got stuck, but then got out and flipped him off! Do you want a soda? I'm stopping off to get one." And I said, "No, you're not. We're going to mom and dad's house to drop off your stuff. If he's anywhere near here, he'll be looking for us, so let's go drop your stuff off quickly." Not to mention if he had called the cops, I wasn't interested in being felony stopped for suspicion of burglary or any other crime even though no crime had been committed.
We made it back fine, dropped off everything, and I took pictures of everything so we could show what exactly had been taken. Of course she immediately received 10+ angry text messages containing all sorts of words that would be censored here, including one that said, "I have the license plate if anything of mine is missing." And, later, "The locks have been changed. (Yeah, right.) If you come in my house again it will be a felony. (He should know.)" among other baseless, empty threats. Considering he has a gun illegally in the house (since he's a felon), it's in his best interest not to talk to LE as much as possible.
Anyway, we're finally making it to the point of this thread: if you're going into a situation where you know it might be risky, Google map the property. The only reason I knew about the neighbor's driveway being so close is because I had been there once before just a couple weeks ago. If I didn't, he would have trapped me in, and forced me to call 911, along with any other reaction to any actions he might have taken. If you think you might need an escape route, map one out, and familiarize yourself with a few different routes. Unfortunately I didn't have any such options in today's situation (especially since neither Google Maps, nor Yahoo Maps, had the updated property picture with the house), but it only highlighted the fact that if I ever have to do anything like that again, I need to be familiar with the property and multiple ways out.
Safe traveling, everyone.
February 11th, 2010 01:28 AM
I would have probably told her to forget about her crap in that house and wait for the divorce to be final. Or have an officer assist you in taking the items out of the house.
February 11th, 2010 01:42 AM
Or... just don't go in those places. You certainly had a choice NOT to go.
Originally Posted by swatspyder
Rule #1 is avoidance. This could have been a very dangerous situation.
Glad it turned out okay though.
February 11th, 2010 02:04 AM
Good tip, I guess, but seriously....get a PD escort next time. If you were to end up in an altercation would you really want to be perceived as armed muscle, brought in to strong arm him? Or worse, have to resort to using your weapon in an event that would be portrayed in court as foreseeable?
Watch yourself buddy. It's clear your sister isn't the logical, rational one so you need to be!
February 11th, 2010 02:29 AM
PD has been unresponsive, or I would have scheduled it. I sent info to one PD, only to be told it's a County PD problem. Never heard from County.
No doubt my sister isn't even remotely responsible, along with any other number of positive adjectives. I'm just glad we got in and out without too much trouble, really, and hopefully this all will be behind her and the rest of our family, so he can move on to his next victim.
February 11th, 2010 04:20 AM
'Stuff' is not worth the hassle...I would have left it and moved on with life...
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February 15th, 2010 09:34 AM
Rule #1 of evictions for landlords: Get the sherrif, not the local PD, the sherrif to oversee the removal of property.
You might not be a landlord, but the same reasons for this apply. With all due respect, it sounds like your sister may do something incredibly stupid, thus escalating the problem, then...who knows.
February 15th, 2010 02:43 PM
Why not let the LEOs know he has a firearm in the house? Automatic jail time...easier divorce.
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February 15th, 2010 04:32 PM
I did. No action.
Originally Posted by SIGguy229
February 20th, 2010 05:07 AM
I don't have anything much to add here except to say that I think this whole situation is very scary indeed.
As for this whole thing being behind your sister... as I am learning in my own life with respect to people I know who are irresponsible and choose to demonstrate loyalty to questionable individuals and thereby potentially able to put *me* into a high-risk situation... her ability to think clearly and rationally being hampered may unfortunately continue to impact both her life and yours.
Even if this particular felon is now a part of her past. If she cannot look at the world with a thinking mind and identify threats *and avoid them* at best or identify potential threats and consciously recognize that though she may choose to ignore red flags with respect to her own relationship with those people, *she ought not introduce danger risks into the lives of her loved ones* , you may find yourself under the enduring and persistent threat of her continuing in the worst policy: Finding threat risks, incorporating them into her own life, and then incorporating them into yours without your foreknowledge or consent.
Sounds to me like someone needs to give her a crash course in thinking. Another scary thought: if someone actually *does* give her a crash course in thinking, would she herself become a threat to that instructor?
February 20th, 2010 08:52 AM
I wouldn't be in that situation. Irresponsible family members have to care for themself.
February 20th, 2010 01:22 PM
Good luck with your sister. Sounds like she needs to grow up. She also needs to pick her men more carefully. If you let her she will get you involved in a lot of trouble due to her attitude and the way she conducts herself. I'm glad you changed your mind about serving the papers on her husband. That had the makings of a lot of problems for you. I'm one of the many on this forum who advised you against doing this. These guys do real good at giving good advice.
February 20th, 2010 01:35 PM
Google doesn't save us from stupidity or threats. Only acting to avoid them, withstand them.
Question: If this ex-felon, soon to be ex-husband is so threatening and potentially violent as was previously described, why is everyone taking a month or more of dilly-dallying around that home, continuing to be in his crosshairs, continuing to risk being caught at places late at night when he's got the advantage ...?
I certainly don't know all of the details of the scene, but it seems that a lot of risks are being taken for knowing so much about the threat this guy poses.
At some point, it comes to that. Exactly so.
Originally Posted by albundy
One person's desire to continue irresponsibility need not continue extending the threat to all other family members as a matter of course. Not if that person continues to ignore advice, continues the risky behavior, continues to fail to take it all seriously enough.
All the indicators are there, showing this ex-felon to be capable of so much more. And yet, there's no sense of urgency and high-security here. Caution is due, lest it backfires on you.
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February 20th, 2010 02:28 PM
Trust me, that was my question, too. I couldn't believe if when we went to the house before with the truck and got her piano and a bunch of other crap, only for her to say she had left some MORE crap there. I was pissed.
Originally Posted by ccw9mm
Fortunately, she's gone. And she's done with him. Now she's my parents' problem for a little while while she gets back on her feet. I just don't get it. I'm almost 10 years younger and yet I'm 10 years more mature.
February 20th, 2010 03:08 PM
That might work in your state, but don't assume it's the same everywhere. Three of the 4 states in which I've lived have no sheriff-like agency, and more than one has no county-level government at all. On top of that, evictions are handled differently, including some where there is no LEO involvement whatsoever.
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