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    Wife understands dangers of society..

    My wife understands dangers of society even more now.
    Quick history.
    I moved to VA from GA 2 years ago. Met my now wife. We've been married for 1 year and 1 week now. She was going through a rough divorce when we met.
    I got my CHP about 6 months ago, but did not start carrying until recently.

    I recently bought a few new handguns and took my wife out shooting a couple times. The first time she wasn't sure how she would like it, but really looked forward to the 2nd time. She can't operate the slide of most semi-auto's because she doesn't have the hand strength. But she loves the Ruger GP100 with 38 spls in it. She says my LCR kicks too hard, but likes the XD 40sc even tho she can't rack the slide.

    The last time we went shooting, the tomboy in her came out. LOL When we were done, she was digging through the dirt looking for bullets. LOL She really enjoyed and looks forward to more shooting.

    I thought it would be a good idea, to familiarize her more with the guns, to go with her, and together take an NRA handgun safety class. Then she could get her permit if she wants to.

    Well, today.. while I was at work about noon, she goes to Food City to do some grocery shopping. Comes back out of the store and there is a note on her windshield of her car from some guy who says that he likes the way she looks and gives his number and says to call him, etc., and also says, "if you are married, I don't want to cause no trouble".

    Needless to say, she called me immediately, by this time I was off work and at home. She felt all creepy like some weirdo might be following her or something. She kept me on the phone the whole time she went to CVS then home, and when she got out of her car at CVS and when returning to her car from the CVS store, she kept her pepper spray in her hand, and was watching her 6 all the way home.

    She showed me the note when she got home. She said to shred it, but I told her I was going to keep it. It's got the fools phone number on it. Told her if we seem to start having a problem with this guy leaving notes on her car, I will have to call him myself.

    I figure if he didn't follow her home, which we are sure he didn't, and since he is not getting any phone call from her, then maybe if he was just some lonely dude hoping to score a date, that he will figure she was either not interested or married.

    You would think that he would realize that if she was married, he would be opening himself up to a phone call from an irate husband.

    BTW: This past saturday, we went and took the class together. I was surprise how well she shot too. She got 6 out of 6 center mass and 6 out of 6 in center of the head at 7 yards. Instructor said she shot better than some of the guys that take his class. I was proud of her.

    This incident kinda had her nervous tho.
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    That is disturbing. He watched her enough to know which car was hers or he saw her getting out of it. Either way, he knows her and her car (and maybe her license plate) and knows where she shops. I think I'd have to call the number and in a calm yet firm manner let him know that she is married and uninterested. Depending on the response, I might would also add that any further contact of any kind and the note and number will be turned over to the police (which wouldn't be a bad idea anyway, just so it is on record). There's a bunch of crazy people out there...he could be one of them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BugDude View Post
    That is disturbing. He watched her enough to know which car was hers or he saw her getting out of it. Either way, he knows her and her car (and maybe her license plate) and knows where she shops. I think I'd have to call the number and in a calm yet firm manner let him know that she is married and uninterested. Depending on the response, I might would also add that any further contact of any kind and the note and number will be turned over to the police (which wouldn't be a bad idea anyway, just so it is on record). There's a bunch of crazy people out there...he could be one of them.
    Great advice here, and it was free, take it.
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    Sounds like a potential stalker to me.
    I'd be getting her into a pistol class, then get her a CCW permit, and nice comfortable snubbie.
    You just can't be too careful...this guy sounds like a wacko.
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    Thanks you all for the advice. I think you have a good idea there Bugdude.

    She took the NRA pistol class this past Saturday and has the certificate. She is going to the courthouse tomorrow to apply for her CHP. She does have some pepper spray that I got her just a month or two ago that she keeps with her.

    She doesn't like snubbies, says they kick too hard for her. We have a Ruger SP101 that is a 3 inch version, but the trigger is so hard. Had a 14# main spring. I changed it to a 10# but still doesn't seem that much lighter, but she can pull it through. She couldn't pull it through with the 14# spring. I also took dremmel and sanding wheel to the edge of the trigger real lightly and rounded off the sharp edge, then buffed it. Smoothed it up nice. Changed the small grip to a Hogue monogrip. She hasn't fired it yet since all that tho.
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    This is the exact reason why my wife understands the importance of her carrying. I can't always be with her due to crazy surgical rotations and she fully welcomes the idea of taking care of her self and our daughter when I am not there to do so. Also it is really nice when we are out together, having someone to watch your back and you theirs. I hope all works out for you and your family. Stay armed and safe.

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    One thing I find to be potentially dangerous in a lot of retail stores today is the use of customer names. A lot of places, CVS included, direct their employees to say such stupid things like, Thank you Mrs. Jones, or such junk to "establish a good relationship with the customer".

    Stalker, lurker or just your run of the mill dirtbag can stand nearby any register in one of these places and use what he hears to his advantage later on in the parking lot.

    It is easy to see how a person can be approached more easily if the approacher calls out something like "Oh, Mrs. Jones. You left something at the counter."

    I do not want people who do not know me to use my name when they hand back my credit card or at any other time in a public place..

    Whenever I ask that a clerk not use my name I get the same answer, "we have to and can get written up if we don't." Management turns a deaf ear when they are asked about it and give the same answer.

    OMO

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    Hmm, good point there boscobeans. Never thought of that one myself.

    I really do think there is a lot of good advice on this forum for people to cull.
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    Quote Originally Posted by tkruf View Post

    I recently bought a few new handguns and took my wife out shooting a couple times. The first time she wasn't sure how she would like it, but really looked forward to the 2nd time. She can't operate the slide of most semi-auto's because she doesn't have the hand strength. But she loves the Ruger GP100 with 38 spls in it. She says my LCR kicks too hard, but likes the XD 40sc even tho she can't rack the slide.
    BTW: This past saturday, we went and took the class together. I was surprise how well she shot too. She got 6 out of 6 center mass and 6 out of 6 in center of the head at 7 yards. Instructor said she shot better than some of the guys that take his class. I was proud of her.

    This incident kinda had her nervous tho.
    Glad the situation turned out okay. A lot of good advice about awareness and people aready given, so.....................
    I'm going to suggest that she try this technique..........
    1. Left hand on slide right hand on grip. (If left handed, reverse hands). Finger off trigger and around grip.
    2. At the same time rack slide back while pushing forward with grip hand. Grip hand moves forward not stationary. Should be rapid motion. Gun and hands should be close to the body but, of course, pointed slightly away from body. Practice with EMPTY magazine and gun.
    Women have a different center of gravity and more lower body strength rather than upper body strength like men do.
    Hope that helps.

    As to the training...most trainers agree women do better in classes than men. They don't go in with "pre-wired" ideas and they pay attention. Women also have better fine motor skills that are needed in shooting.
    Not running down men... I love men just stating facts.
    I have a full-size XDm .40 and a F.E.G. PA63. Both are not easy to rack and the technique works great for me. The F.E.G is HARD to rack.
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    A normal man would have just casually come up to your wife in the store, checked out if she had a wedding ring, and if not then he would have "given it a shot". But this guy doesn't sound too normal to me.

    As far as your wife's trouble with DA revolvers and her limited hand strength, my own wife easily overcame that issue after only a few weeks of working out with a GripMaster (Light Tension for women: Amazon.com: Gripmaster Hand Exerciser Blue, Light Tension (5-Pounds per Finger): Sports & Outdoors). Your wife would need to work out every day or every other day with it to keep her strength up.

    Now, my wife doesn't think twice about going 50 rounds with her fully stainless steel DAO .38spl S&W snubby.

    (BTW, the recoil of the alloy framed snubbies with +Ps is far too brutal even for me, much less my wife. If your wife ever goes with a snubby, go only with the full steel models, along with NON +Ps only. I also use Reduced Recoil Personal Defense Federal rounds myself).

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    Quote Originally Posted by boscobeans View Post
    One thing I find to be potentially dangerous in a lot of retail stores today is the use of customer names. A lot of places, CVS included, direct their employees to say such stupid things like, Thank you Mrs. Jones, or such junk to "establish a good relationship with the customer".

    Stalker, lurker or just your run of the mill dirtbag can stand nearby any register in one of these places and use what he hears to his advantage later on in the parking lot.

    It is easy to see how a person can be approached more easily if the approacher calls out something like "Oh, Mrs. Jones. You left something at the counter."

    I do not want people who do not know me to use my name when they hand back my credit card or at any other time in a public place..

    Whenever I ask that a clerk not use my name I get the same answer, "we have to and can get written up if we don't." Management turns a deaf ear when they are asked about it and give the same answer.

    OMO

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    Quote Originally Posted by boscobeans View Post
    One thing I find to be potentially dangerous in a lot of retail stores today is the use of customer names. A lot of places, CVS included, direct their employees to say such stupid things like, Thank you Mrs. Jones, or such junk to "establish a good relationship with the customer".

    Stalker, lurker or just your run of the mill dirtbag can stand nearby any register in one of these places and use what he hears to his advantage later on in the parking lot.

    It is easy to see how a person can be approached more easily if the approacher calls out something like "Oh, Mrs. Jones. You left something at the counter."

    I do not want people who do not know me to use my name when they hand back my credit card or at any other time in a public place..

    Whenever I ask that a clerk not use my name I get the same answer, "we have to and can get written up if we don't." Management turns a deaf ear when they are asked about it and give the same answer.

    OMO

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    I wouldn't like that at all either. It helps that I have a totally unpronounceable last name, but I would be having a talk with management about the policy. If it didn't change I'd be taking my business elsewhere.
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    It seems that you and your wife are doing the right things.
    Contact he Police.
    Stay alert.
    Keep your powder dry

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    My wife continues to amaze me. I just watched Law Abiding Citizen the other night with my kids and was explaining at the dinner table the importance of not opening the door if you don't know who is there. (If anyone saw the movie, they'll know what I'm talking about). She kind of scoffed at my educating the kids. I stated that sticking your head in the sand is not going to make the evil in society go away. The response was that most people are harmed by someone they know. AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!

    I just can't make her get it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MP45Man View Post
    My wife continues to amaze me. I just watched Law Abiding Citizen the other night with my kids and was explaining at the dinner table the importance of not opening the door if you don't know who is there. (If anyone saw the movie, they'll know what I'm talking about). She kind of scoffed at my educating the kids. I stated that sticking your head in the sand is not going to make the evil in society go away. The response was that most people are harmed by someone they know. AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!

    I just can't make her get it.
    Yep, and there are "some" people that win lotteries. Kind of an ultimate win. Would she want the kids to live with, or be the brunt, of the ultimate loss???

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