My wife did not want me to get my cwp
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June 22nd, 2010 10:21 AM
I think many of us are suffering from a generation of women that were not even in consideration for gun education when it came to their fathers. In my case, my wife adopted her mother's take and automatically disliked guns due to her ignorance (Not her fault). Her father did not educate her about them at all but his son was taught to handle them properly. I think that was a huge disservice to her and many women like her. The job rests solely on my shoulders and I will not make that mistake with my daughter or my boys. They will all be taught properly so that irrational fears are not a factor in the decision. Guns are tools for a specific purpose. All tools require education.
My daughter takes comfort in knowing I own and carry and so does my wife.....but only sometimes. Gun education is a two-way street...one has to be willing to be taught
June 22nd, 2010 10:35 AM
When I first started dating my present wife, I was a partner in a gun shop and range. As I was carrying at work and to and from the bank, as well as having a few loaded handguns in my condo (strategically placed)I decided to teach her to shoot. She did very well.
When Ohio decided to allow CCW, we both signed up for the class. Since then we both are usually carrying. It's nice to have a back up!
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June 22nd, 2010 10:46 AM
I'd bet she started actually paying attention to the news.
Originally Posted by warmxd9
June 22nd, 2010 11:01 AM
I've always had guns, and my wife grew up with very pro-gun parents. When I first got my permit all she did was ask if it meant I was going to start wearing big baggy clothes. That's it. She never asks if I have my gun, but often notices it while we're out. I think she's on the cusp of getting her permit, which would be nice. Like everyone else said though, I'm letting her get to it in her own time.
June 22nd, 2010 11:12 AM
I have had my permit for a few years now. My wife is "Considering" getting hers now too after all this time. Circumstances have changed for her and she see that the world around her is changing faster than she would like. She is slow to change but I will not be surprised to hear her ask me for help in the not so distant future
June 22nd, 2010 12:10 PM
My wife was absolutely fine with guns in the house... was happy to go to the range.... enjoyed shooting... we were just runnin' the guns to start break in.
I invited her to the county CCW class... she said No.. .No .. No and you don't need one either...
I told her I would go to the next class, and we would discuss in the mean time...
I have my permit...
she will not go with me if I am armed...
We don't go out much.
I'm workin on it...
It's a work in progress...
June 22nd, 2010 12:15 PM
My wife grew up hunting with shotguns and rifles all around. They just werent handgun people. I carried around them for almost a year before they even knew. They were simply amazed that a person could carry something like that day in and day out with no real intrusion in to "normal" life. They dont even think about it now. My wife totally understands that the world is bad and we are ultimately repsonsible for our own safety. She is looking for a handgun now, and will be getting her CCP ASAP.
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June 22nd, 2010 12:16 PM
It's the education, stupid!
Met my g/f and she was a self-described "bleeding heart liberal".
Within 2 months, she fired her first weapon.
About a month after that, she tells me she would rather me carry when we are out and about running errands because it "makes her feel more safe"
Every month since, she has been the one to ask "When are we going to the range again?". Her accuracy caught the attention of the range instructor, who told her "she has a gift". She is much more accurate than I am at this point -- and she has only shot a handgun 4 times.
Last week, she signed up for her first defensive pistol class and asked the manager of the range about CHL classes. She even inquired as to the best weapon to carry in a purse.
Much like everything else, give the left a little bit of education and remove the emotion from the debate and they see the light.
June 22nd, 2010 12:26 PM
Luckily for us we both agree on guns!
I grew up around rifles and shotguns but my family was not big in handguns...in fact my dad still doesn't like the thought of me having one.
Being security forces in the air force I have formed a comfort zone of knowing I have a gun around.
We just recently bought our first handguns in May and I already feel the immediate relief! We are waiting on our CHL and that is exciting!
Now as far as from a womans point of view...I am not a normal woman and I am aware that when it is just my kids and I out and about there is no way in the world I would be capable of defending my children and myself alone. I wanted the comfort of having the access of a weapon for defense of my children!
There are many women that I know who absolutely do not like the thought of guns and I agree with one of the posts I read earlier...the women in the past have not been educated with guns it was perceived that women should not be around weapons it is the mans job to defend the family therefore the man should have the gun training. I grew up hunting and I am very greatful that I had parents who taught me about guns!
My children are and will be taught about guns...in fact my daughter turns 3 this year and we are planning on taking her to the range so that she can get used to the noise and the environment!
June 22nd, 2010 12:29 PM
My wife had issues with my CWP for a very long time, that is until I was able to get her to the range for the first time a couple months back, took a female friend of hers interest to spark my wife's interest. Now she talks about getting her Own permit.
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June 22nd, 2010 12:49 PM
My wife never fired a gun before we met. I took it slow, like with a child. Started her off with 22's. Eventually, she graduated up, and declared that she was tired of shooting MY guns. She bought her own Kimber Classic Stainless 1911. She shoots it well and really likes it. I have my CHL, but for a reason I can't figure out, she doesn't want one. Women.
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June 22nd, 2010 02:07 PM
I just recently got my concealed pistol license about two months ago.
My girlfriend of three years is very wishy-washy on the subject. She has fired rifles and is comfortable with them, but she has never fired handguns. I've tried to get her to go to the range with me many times, but for some reason she wont go.
She says that she feels like everyone is watching her at an indoor range, and that people will think she is 'dumb'. I told her that everyone starts out 'dumb'. Everyone learned from someone. On the other hand, she says she has no problem going out into the woods with me to go shooting, so it looks like that is what we're going to do.
As far as me carrying sometimes she says "why do you need that, blah blah blah" and other times she tells me she is glad I have my CPL.
I just carry the gun with me and show her at the end of the night that I've had it the whole time, to prove to her that it wont effect her either way. Usually she says "I couldn't even tell it was there!" and, of course, I say "that's the idea".
I think once most women overcome the irrational fear of the gun going off by itself, they are usually fine.
EDIT: I forgot to add, her most recent stance is that she is ok with me carrying, but doesn't want me to carry around her three-year-old niece. It makes no sense. So I asked her niece's father if he was ok with it, he didn't have a problem, so I continued to carry and again showed my girlfriend at the end of the night. I told her it doesn't matter if there is a small child around, the gun is not going to go off by itself. She's slowly getting used to it...
June 22nd, 2010 02:30 PM
I bought my first handgun a few months back. I then got my chp recently. I have cc'd with my wife around. She doesnt say much about it, but I know that if I ever do anything that she thinks is unsafe with the handgun, that would be the end of it.
Accordingly, I am very careful when guns are involved. I have thought many times of when I would draw my weapon - the only time being unable to retreat and with the threat of great bodily harm and/or death for me or my family, with an overt act - just as Virginia requires.
In our case (married 7 years), I think she trusts my judgment. Also, she doesnt have blinders on, so she is aware of what the world is like - unforgiving.
She is also aware that an individual is more likely to get accidentally injured/killed with their own handgun than they are to use the weapon in self defense.
Last edited by erust2; June 23rd, 2010 at 09:11 AM.
Reason: edit - and of course Virginia requires an overt act
June 22nd, 2010 03:24 PM
I have had my CHL a lot longer than my current GF. She knew that my carrying is part of the package that is me.
Any complaints would precede a boot out the door. I have wanted to stay alive a lot longer than I have liked the current GF.
"Life's tough......It's even tougher if you're stupid." -John Wayne
June 22nd, 2010 04:04 PM
I am so glad that I don't have these problems. My wife honestly didn't know that there was such thing as an anti-gun male when she met. She thought every family had guns in the home and that men carried them, at least some times. Of course, I've known where I stand on the issue for as long as I can remember, and I wouldn't have considered marrying a woman that was opposed to guns.
The only issue is with getting her to the range. She simply doesn't trust being around other people with guns. She's seen stupid things done at the range, and she doesn't want to have to deal with that again. And that's the number one reason why I don't let any unsafe action go without comment when at the range.
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