FYI: Update on GF against carrying
This is a discussion on FYI: Update on GF against carrying within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; A few years ago, I posted a thread about my gf adamantly not wanting me to carry:
After my original thread, I decided to ...
June 6th, 2011 12:38 PM
FYI: Update on GF against carrying
A few years ago, I posted a thread about my gf adamantly not wanting me to carry:
Girlfriend NOT happy about me carrying
After my original thread, I decided to carry everywhere (that I legally could) and just not tell her. She eventually grew impartial to it and didn't pay much attention to it except rolling her eyes when she felt it on my waist. Well, I would like to announce that as of this weekend, she has agreed to get her CWP! I cannot express how excited I am about this. For those of you wondering how I got her to this point, it took a lot of work (evidenced by the fact that the original thread was in 2008). The main contributer was me occasionally showing or telling her about local robberies/murders. Another main factor was encouragent when we did go shooting, "Great shot!" "You're way better than I was when I first started shooting." She's also decided that since she's going to be taking the class, we need to go shoot some so that she'll be prepared. We're getting married on October 8th, and she's decided that she wants a gun from me for her wedding gift.
So, for those of you that are in my previous situation, do not despair. It is possible for your SO to come around.
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June 6th, 2011 12:45 PM
W00t, sounds like you had the patience to slowly persuade her toward being able to protect herself. Good job.
June 6th, 2011 12:49 PM
I can only hope, but I don't think it'll happen... I have to be very subtle, if I even remotely force the issue the walls go higher and stronger.
June 6th, 2011 12:50 PM
Great news and great post! I am in a similar boat. My ccw class is scheduled for this month, and I plan to carry everywhere legally possible. She supports my gun collection but wonders why I need to carry. She is not against me carrying by any means, but just simply wonders WHY. SO, I often show her post on here with people in similar situations. I hope soon that she will want to take the class also.
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June 6th, 2011 01:40 PM
Congrats on the turnaround of her views and on the upcoming wedding! I was lucky enough to get a lady who already wanted to carry before I met her. Happily married 16 days now!
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June 6th, 2011 01:50 PM
Glad things are looking up for you. Nothing wrong with a woman that asks for a gun as a gift.
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June 6th, 2011 04:41 PM
Next time your fiancee asks/wonders why you need to carry, tell her something like this:
Originally Posted by younggun
"The reason I need to carry is because you are the most important person in my life and I need to be able to protect you to the best of my ability. I could not live with myself if, God forbid, something bad were to happen and I was not prepared and equipped to protect you. I plan for us to live the rest of our lives TOGETHER and I will not let anything or anyone change that plan, if at all possible."
June 6th, 2011 04:54 PM
Happy she finally took a good hard look at life!
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June 6th, 2011 05:44 PM
Congratulations. I guess the old saying "Patiences is a virtue," is true.
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June 6th, 2011 06:20 PM
My wife was similar to your situation where she wanted NOTHING to do with a handgun, nor did she like the fact that there was one in the car or on me dependent on the situation. After 8 years of marriage when we go on roadtrips she now asks things like, "You did bring a gun didn't you?" Lately she's been asking about me taking her to the pistol range. Slowly, but surely I've got her coming around. (She has no idea how many guns are in our house, and probably never will.)
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June 6th, 2011 07:29 PM
That's awesome, persistence pays. I took me four years to get the Mrs to get her CWFL. My best friend in MI just convinced his better half to get her CFL after 3 years of carrying himself.
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June 6th, 2011 07:35 PM
Congratulations to the both of you. You did good. It took my navigator 34yrs to decide to get her permit. Maybe in a few more I'll hear "Honey, are you carrying, or should I?"
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June 6th, 2011 09:43 PM
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June 6th, 2011 09:53 PM
Originally Posted by gunthorp
both of you carrying is the best idea
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June 6th, 2011 10:29 PM
Congrats on the milestone...keep working on her, and she'll soon be outshooting you.
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