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    Fiancee and I were talking last night.

    Fiancee and I were talking last night, and I came to a conclusion that really confused her.

    I was sick of being at home, so I took her out to a movie. I've learned the hard way that sitting in the same position with the Taurus on my hip hurts after a while, so I was carrying the .357. Which is usually on her side of the bed, being the easier 'point and shoot' gun. After we got home, I took the .357 out of it's holster and handed it to her only to get 'why do you always hand me THIS one?" So, after a moment of , I tell her because it's the easier gun to handle in a HS moment in the dark. And because I can't handle the .45, the .357, and the 12ga all at once -as much as I might like to- I only need two. So, I give in 'ok, here's the .45'. 'All it does is sit on my bedside table anyway'. I had another short moment, then responded with something she really didn't expect from me (of all people). I told her 'that's all it is supposed to do, the only use a gun should ever need to be put to is to be a really expensive paperweight.' Then, she had a moment. And then another, because I am (unfortunately) a very angry person most of the time. Not necessarily violent, just stupid people make me angry, and I'm rather vocal about it. So, such a peace-oriented response from me surprised her.

    So, in the end, I really think I made a little bit of an impression on her, and made myself think a little. I know some of you will agree with me, but those of you that don't might want to stop and think about it for a minute. As I explained it to my mother almost two years ago when I first bought a handgun and mentioned getting my permit- 'I don't want to USE it. But, I am prepared-and willing- to use it.'
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    I agree with your thinking process!
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    right on
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    Good perspective.

    I've come to expect people to be stupid...and they never seem to disappoint. Nothing to get angry about when you change your expectations of others.
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    My HD handgun is as much as a fixture on my nightstand as my lamp is. My shotgun is as much of a fixture in the corner as the dust bunnies are. But i will not hesitate to grab either and go to work.
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    Right on, RevolvingMag. My goal is never to have to pick my gun up off the nightstand in the middle of the night, and if I do to never have to deploy it. It's such an old cliche that its lost much of its meaning even as a cliche, but the idea is to prepare for the worst and hope for the best. It's there on my nightstand or on my hip, and I train with it in preparation of an unfortunate day where I have to use it, but I certainly hope to never have to.

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    Since obtaining my permit, I have become a much more peaceful person, much less critical, much less vocal, much more aware, and 1000 times more likely to walk away from an argument or altercation of any kind. I am sorry to say, I was not always like that. For the first 45 years of my life, I relished the chance to find confrontation. Even went as far as working as a bouncer to find trouble. My, how time changes things. Now, you would have to actually try to put your hands on me to warrant a good face kick. Time mellows all!
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    PMA=Proper Mental Attitude.

    Those with permits, for the most part, get the PMA sometime after acquiring the weapon, and the permit.

    Some don't.

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    I agree.

    I do whatever possible to prevent needing to use my firearms. If I wanted to shoot someone I wouldn't have my lights on at night, a security system, doors locked and dead bolted and a security sign outside of my home and on every door/window we have.

    It's a last resort where it's either them or me/my family, and I'll do whatever it takes to make sure it's them if the situation ever arises, until then I'm quite content living a peaceful life with a safe and healthy family.

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    I consider myself neutral. I am neither anxious nor reluctant to use my gun. Circumstances will determine my action.
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    Nothing wrong with you thought processes at all!
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    I remember when learning to fight fire how much more confident I became when I learned how to use my equipment and then began to trust it. While a home intruder would terrify me ( hope it never happens) multiple pieces of "equipment" are placed around the house, once that equipment is in your hands and you are confident in its use, the fear will subside some and you can think more clearly and do what needs done.
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    Quote Originally Posted by RevolvingMag View Post
    Fiancee and I were talking last night, and I came to a conclusion that really confused her.

    I was sick of being at home, so I took her out to a movie. I've learned the hard way that sitting in the same position with the Taurus on my hip hurts after a while, so I was carrying the .357. Which is usually on her side of the bed, being the easier 'point and shoot' gun. After we got home, I took the .357 out of it's holster and handed it to her only to get 'why do you always hand me THIS one?" So, after a moment of , I tell her because it's the easier gun to handle in a HS moment in the dark. And because I can't handle the .45, the .357, and the 12ga all at once -as much as I might like to- I only need two. So, I give in 'ok, here's the .45'. 'All it does is sit on my bedside table anyway'. I had another short moment, then responded with something she really didn't expect from me (of all people). I told her 'that's all it is supposed to do, the only use a gun should ever need to be put to is to be a really expensive paperweight.' Then, she had a moment. And then another, because I am (unfortunately) a very angry person most of the time. Not necessarily violent, just stupid people make me angry, and I'm rather vocal about it. So, such a peace-oriented response from me surprised her.

    So, in the end, I really think I made a little bit of an impression on her, and made myself think a little. I know some of you will agree with me, but those of you that don't might want to stop and think about it for a minute. As I explained it to my mother almost two years ago when I first bought a handgun and mentioned getting my permit- 'I don't want to USE it. But, I am prepared-and willing- to use it.'
    Wow........
    I don't think very many of us (including your fiancee ) WANT to shoot anyone even in self defense.

    The rest of your post makes no sense to me.

    Sounds to me like you have a problem communicating with your SO

    Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable with the revolver??

    Is she trained? - does she want to carry or not?

    BTW if meeting stupid people still makes you moan and shout you must not get out much......
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