Scenario: controlling anger after accidental injury to your child
The other day, I saw a teenaged mental midget in a silly little pimpified Mazda peeling out on the street next to the park where my two-year-old son was playing.
I came to wonder how I would react if my son were severely injured or killed in front of me under "accidental" circumstances. I put "accidental" in quotes because this guy was (1) talking on a cell phone and (2) going at least 50 or 70 percent higher than the speed limit, so I'm pretty sure he'd end up facing a manslaughter charge at the very least — but the point is, a situation where no harm was intended, but nevertheless very severe harm resulted.
To make things even more interesting, what if the driver shows no remorse but gets out shouting at you for not controlling your kid, being careless, etc.? (And I'm not really interested in hearing if anyone thinks he'd be right--any parents out there know how quickly a kid can move, and accidents do happen.)
Or what if the driver is obviously drunk? (Or was on a cell phone?)
Or what if the driver attempts to leave the scene?
My question is if anyone on this forum has ever been in a comparable situation, and how you controlled your anger. I imagine anyone (whether armed or not) would have a strong desire to return the favor, but of course this could/would put you in prison. Even if your child were dead (god forbid), your spouse would still need you, there might be siblings who need you as well.
I often see people on this forum talk about how, now that they carry, they know they need to "control their anger" and "not escalate." It seems to me that's a lot easier to do in a situation where someone insults you in the street than in the kind of scenario I described above. I'm not sure what kind of discussion I'm hoping for, but it seems worth thinking about ahead of time.