This is a discussion on After how long do you tell someone? within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by SpringXDsub Hey all, I am a younger male and have been doing the "dating scene" a lot lately. So that has got ...
I am a liberal, voted for Obama, am a member of the NRA,love guns, and dont believe in the Brady Bill and think CCW carriers should be allowed to carry everywhere because the bad guys sure do.
I dont want to flame away however much this tempts me to, but I have dated wonderful women republicans, democrats, gun lovers, and gun haters. Just because someone has a differing opinion than you does not limit their value to a potential relationship.
I am now lucky to be with a liberal, gun loving, beautiful veteran who has no problem with me carrying and although she doesnt all the time, she is working on it.
So to address the original question, I would bring it up on the 3 or 4th date and it is a deal breaker only if she makes it a deal breaker. You carrying even if she disagrees doesnt necessarily mean it wont be a great relationship.
Now if we are talking about just having "fun" with some girl you meet at a bar and not relationships, dont even bring it up.
Concealed is concealed.
I dated a lady for several months and only after that length of time I found she was extremely anti gun. When she "found" my EDC that I had on me every single time we dated she went into "mother-in-law" mode (you married guys know how that is right). Needless to say we stopped seeing each other shortly after that I never would give up my right to defend myself and my family for anybody. But I did start to care for this woman a bit by then. A few months ago I hear through the grapevine she was held up and hit a few times by a mugger even after he already had her purse. That kinda made my point to her even with me not being around at the time a gun is just a tool to me us a bit safer, it's up to each of us to do 99% of the work before a firearm ever comes into the picture.
"Fear is nothing more than an emotional response to the perception of danger coupled with the belief that I can't handle it."
"If you change that belief to 'I can handle it', you'll no longer experience FEAR. You'll simply see what you are facing is a challenge... an opportunity to test yourself.
It depends on how much you like her.. you do and you tell her your on a special government assignment (wink, wink). You don't and you tell her you got a hit on your head.
Why?? Because at the last second, the Police are minutes away.
An enemy of liberty is no friend of mine. I do not owe respect to anyone who would enslave me by government force, nor is it wise for such a person to expect it. -- Isaiah Amberay
I talked with my woman about why I wanted to get my CPL, and she was all for it. She wanted to be with me when I went to the Police Dept to do the paperwork and get finger printed. She didn't say it but I think she wanted to be there to see for herself that I had no criminal history and was a good guy.
As soon as you feel your relationship with her is serious Bro, let her know. Then take her to the range
I agree, when she asks if you have protection, say yep! I just took it out today and it fired perfectly... it's an excellent shooter... Too abrupt? LOL
I would suggest bringing up the topic early on to make sure she's not massively anti-gun and totally freaks out, but leave the range to later once you've installed the ball and chain and she can't leave you (joke). It might not be an enjoyable date... When she suggests that you both go to see a chick flick, you can suggest the range. :)
I started seeing this woman recently, she's been to my house I've showed her most of my guns but she has never asked if I carry one and I've never told her I carried one. The other night we went out to dinner and when we got back to my house I took off my flannel I was wearing and she saw The .357 in my waistband. She said " You've had that on you the whole time we were out?" I said I've had that on me every time we've been out. She just looked at me and smiled and she hasn't said anything about it since, guess I got off lucky ? :)
Vermont does not issue Permit/Licenses to Carry a Concealed firearm. Vermont allows anyone
who can legally own a firearm to carry it concealed without a permit of any kind.
Just talk about your life, which includes shooting. So, I'd mention I was "at the range the other night" etc. if talking about each other's week. Skip the CCW as some Huge Announcement. She might ask, people have asked me once they know I shoot at the range etc. Depending on who they are, I'll just say, "yeah, times I do. Pass the salt." Or when you feel like it's something that'd be usual to mention when you're talking about guns, go ahead and mention it.
The more you make a "BIG ISSUE" out of it, the more she'll think of it as a "BIG ISSUE". Just be natural. If you don't feel like mentioning this on a first date - so don't.
Whatever: "All you gotta do is - Act naturallleeeeeee")
If she hasn't discovered your sidearm herself by the third date, you're doing it wrong.
I'm looking at you, SmartCarry owners.....