Need ammo... For a debate with the wife!
This is a discussion on Need ammo... For a debate with the wife! within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by Eaglebeak
You have a very sound reason for being armed at home and while out and about in the DFW area because, ...
October 27th, 2011 10:13 AM
I have this Barska safe beside my bed, with a loaded 357 magnum inside. I can have the gun in my hand in about 3 seconds. The burglar alarm will give me more lead time than that before a bad guy can make it to our bedroom.
Originally Posted by Eaglebeak
October 27th, 2011 10:40 AM
Let me give you a little tip on us women..... we respond a lot better to your ideas when we truly believe you are listening to us and our concerns and addressing them.
If you go marching to her with nothing but demands and arguments you are going to get a brick wall in response and she's likely not going to budge at all.
On the other hand, if you approach her in a manner that suggests not only understanding but compromise you might be surprised at how much she's willing to give because she'll trust you have listened to her.
Sit down with her and do nothing but ask questions.
"What are your reservations about getting a gun?
Would it ease your mind at all if I got a safe?
What are your reservations about getting a carry permit?
Would it ease your mind if we took a class together?
Would you be okay letting the kids take a class or letting them watch this gun-education video?"
If you do nothing but ask questions you are forcing her to come up with conclusions on her own and not forcing any of your opinions on her. A masterful "question-asker" can guide the conversation to a happy conclusion and make it seem as though it was the other person's idea all along.
JD is GREAT at this....
"Sweety, what do you think of this Les Baer? Do you know how much they retail for? This is a really good deal then, huh?"
I'm putty in his hands.
October 27th, 2011 11:03 AM
You may even find out that you will be "getting" allot more than just a gun.
Originally Posted by limatunes
October 27th, 2011 11:27 AM
Listen to the lady.
Then, listen to your own...
Doing something that is completely against the grain is difficult, down right HARD.
Sure you can "be the man of the family" and it might work... and if you are married to a totally subservient female with no self esteem, she'll be "fine, Just FINE" with it. And if she's not; why, you can just "tune her up" a bit.
Now that may seem crude and snide, but FORCING your way on her is just a few VERY short steps from the above abuse.
This is gonna be really tough. Especially with no "personal triggers" available (which I mentioned before).
Lima is right... Ask questions, ask a lot of questions... You can pull a "Dr.Phil" on her, but you had better be sincere...
What's a "Dr. Phil?"
Sit down with her... directly across from her... make sure she's comfortable. Take her hands in yours. Look her in the eye.
Tell her exactly how it would devastate you if something were to happen to her or the children and you could have done something to stop it. Tell her that the safety and security of the family is of the most importance. The only things you have worth having are love, family, home. Tell her that, as a man you really feel compelled to protect that at any cost, even your own life.
It's how we are wired... Men are usually defined by their jobs... and they are protective of their families (just in a different way than women are).
Tell her you'd really like her to help you do what you feel is naturally your job, in fact, you need her to help you. Explain to her that to have a gun locked in a safe seems to be more dangerous to the family than having one available when it's needed. (I've said this before in a similar vein) You don't lock up the fire extinguisher do you? (And by god, you better have a fire extinguisher (and working/tested smoke detectors), or you'll have a hard time convincing her of all this "safety mindedness.")
For most women, actions speak louder than words... get concerned, act concerned, about protecting the family. If all you can have is a gun in a safe... then you better have alarms on the doors and windows to give you time to get to, load and bring your gun into the picture...
You get the training, and let her know you are doing it... and let her know you want to make sure you do things right. Let her know every time you do something that concerns the safety of the family.... "Honey, I want to put up walkway lights, so we can see better when we come home in the dark.." same with motion sensing lights, same with the camera for the front and rear door. It's all about safety for the family.
I'd better stop now... if you don't get the picture, you won't.
It could be worse!
October 27th, 2011 11:40 AM
Thanks Lima - it's nice to have an "interpreter"!
Originally Posted by limatunes
October 27th, 2011 12:40 PM
You mean like hot home cooked meals, instead of dried out burgers from McDonald's??
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