The CHP positive influence
I was talking with my Dad the other night and he was commenting on how I don't drink anymore. He was also commenting on he had noticed a change in how I drive and how I interact very politely with strangers in public. He said he had noticed a change in my demeaner over the last several years and was wondering what had influenced these changes.
He was somewhat surprised when I told him that it was getting my Concealed Handgun Permit. I explained that I don't want to put myself in a position that my judgment is impaired or that I have to use my weapon. I also explained that the responsibility of carrying meant I had a higher standard of avoiding conflict and de-escalating as to not put myself in a position of contributing to or escalating any situation. I drive much more conservatively and politely on the road. If someone is in a hurry, I slow down and let them by. They cut me off, I just avoid and let them go. When I go to the mall or a store, I hold the door for people and say howdy, ma'am, sir, etc. I told him that my firearm was my last resort, and my first option was to avoid trouble to begin with.
My Dad was very impressed that I take carrying so seriously that it has had such a positive influence on my demeanor in so many ways. I replied, "Well, so many people think that guns are bad...for me, getting my permit and carrying has certainly been an overwhelming positive and humbling influence." He thought it was getting older, having kids, etc. and I told him, "Those family responsibilities were the reason I obtained my CHP, it just so happened the responsibility of carrying had other downstream positive influences." He thought that was an interesting perspective. Anyone else have a similar experience?