Thanksgiving family advice PLEASE!?

Thanksgiving family advice PLEASE!?

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    Question Thanksgiving family advice PLEASE!?

    I drove with my family from MI down to OH for Thanksgiving, I read up on the OH laws, I have reciprocity, and I brought my portable gun safe. On the way down, my mother insisted that I tell my aunt or uncle with whom we are staying for 3-4 days that I have my CPL and have my firearm with me. I didn't think I should be obligated to tell them because it's my responsibility and I have it well under control. Out of respect for my mom I decided to tell my aunt. After all, it is their home. My aunt didn't completely freak out but did a little bit, she has some crazy/irresponsible kids that make very bad decisions, and she said "you should have asked before you came down, I wish you would have left it at home". I wanted to say "then I wouldn't have come", but my respect for family stopped me. She also expressed that she has an irrational fear of pistols and is even used to loaded and unlocked long guns being around but the crazy kids and stealing stuff was a concern. I let her know that I understand the gravity of the responsibility and I assured her very assertively and politely that nothing bad will happen as a result of my sidearm, and that she will be the ONLY person I tell, NO ONE will know I have it, so no one would even come looking for it, and even if they did it will be securely locked in a safe, or on my hip so NO ONE is getting their paws on my gun. ...but I still don't feel like she's convinced. Reality tells me I probably won't be able to convince her or make her comfortable with it...

    I find myself torn and wondering what is the best way to go from here... Is there anything you can think of that I might be able to say to my aunt to convince her that everything is perfectly cool and OK? should I offer to lock it up in our family vehicle, lock the Jeep and just leave it there so she's more comfortable but leaving myself defenseless? I don't want to do that but feel like it might be best. Should I just continue to handle it as I am now, which would be to leave it where it is, she is basically accepting, but not happy/comfortable with it so just no longer bring it up and keep it on me or locked up in my care as usual?

    All suggestions and input are much appreciated!


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    I would have told my mother to stay out of it. Sometimes parents have a hard time believing that we are grown ups. At this point in your case, I wouldnt bring it up anymore and let it rest, or seek out a nice motel. Remember, you might have to see the next year.
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    Welcome to the forum. You can't go back and undo what is already done, but as you are now aware, the less people that know you are carrying, the better. It helps avoid situations like this. Given the situation that you are now in, I would just leave things as they are and not mention the gun anymore to your aunt or anyone else. Locking it in the Jeep leaves it vulnerable to being stolen by anybody, not just your aunt's kids. I can't think of anything you can tell your aunt that will make her feel better. You've already done everything you can to assure her. Good luck and try to have an enjoyable holiday.
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    I would continue to keep it on your person and concealed! I personally would not leave my firearm locked up in the car overnight. To me, that is too much of a risk! I would have trouble sleeping worring about someone breaking into the car! Just my .02 for what it is worth. Hope it all works out OK for you and you and family are able to enjoy a safe and happy Thanksgiving!
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    Without your pistol you're "defenseless"? Not me. I have all kinds of family defensive capabilities, and only one is a firearm.

    You have a moral obligation to accept the rules of the homeowner. In cases such as this, there are no words that can make your case. You're not in front of a judge. The homeowner's word is final, and you should respect that. Lock up your handgun in your vehicle and store it there. I personally feel people have an obligation to let family and friends know if they are bringing a firearm into their home. Others disagree with me.

    I often lock my gun in my car. I use a COM vehicle safe, and I simply don't worry about it.

    If the homeowner doesn't want the gun in their home, you must lock it in your vehicle. You also have the option of staying in a motel/hotel and locking up you gun when you are in their home. It's only polite.
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    what if the "crazy kids" stole your portable gun safe?
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    I'd not have said anything in the first place. Tell Mom not to mention it either.
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    I agree! If you can afford it, stay in a nearby hotel or motel. I would approach your aunt and let her know that you completely understand her concerns, and out of respect for her and her home, you're willing to stay elsewhere. If she gives you the patented reply "Oh don't be silly" just tell her your serious. If she comes around and tells you she's sorry that she may have over re-acted, you say that it's understandable, but that your offer still stands. If she accepts your offer you have no choice. Next year you will have a choice as well, to go or not to go!
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    The whole family is in one vehicle, so I can't really just go to a hotel. We are in a somewhat rural area so it should be safe in the Jeep. I see both sides of this, and I'm still undecided so all input is still much appreciated.

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    Gone to vist in the hood ? Better stay armed !! From some of the posts I read here it appears either a lot of posters reside in really bad areas or their just super paranoid !!
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    It's tough getting the toothpaste back in the tube.

    There's a valuable concept in the security world, called "need to know". Your mom didn't have it, and now you know why.

    In regards as to what to do now, as a guest, I generally abide by my host's rules.
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    Right this minute, my wife and I are traveling from Ohio to Pennsylvania to spend the holiday with her family. She has no idea whether I am carrying or not. None of her family is even aware that I have a CHL. Maybe that is meant by "concealed carry".
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    Don't ask, don't tell.
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    I agree with the others here, you never should have mentioned it to anyone.
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    Only a problem if they know......................

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