I dont tell. Its non of their beez-wax whats in my purse or on my body. :)
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Just a thought: What is your position on concealed carry into another person's house?
As a matter of taste, or etiquette... when you go to another persons house, and they request that you take your shoes off before you enter, most of us would do it. Also... if you were having friends over and you wanted them to take their shoes off you would expect them to do so as well.
So, considering that concealed carry, or private ownership of handguns in general, can be a fairly passionate topic depending on the individual, what should one do when carrying concealed into another persons home? Do you tell them? Do you not tell them? Would you want someone coming into your home carrying concealed without telling you?
The easy answer would be "well... most of my friends carry as well so it's not a problem". Or "All my friends already know I carry so it's not an issue".
So lets make it a little more difficult. Lets say a coworker, or one of your wife's coworkers, or a friend of a friend, has invited you, and the rest of the office, to come over for Super Bowl, and for whatever reason you've decided to go, and the host doesn't know you're a concealed carrier. And let say, for argument, that you don't know the hosts position on 2A, firearms, or concealed carry.
Do you tell? Do you not tell? And what if you were the host of a party and your wife invited "some friends from work" (or whatever) and lets say you notice the husband of one of your wife's coworkers printing over the punch bowl. What would your response be? Or would you even care?
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I dont tell. Its non of their beez-wax whats in my purse or on my body. :)
I carry and I do not disclose or otherwise discuss. There is simply no reason to.
If I saw someone else "printing" I would discretely tell them to tighten it up.
Personally, I see no reason to say anything to them. Concealed means that you really shouldn't have an issue since they aren't going to see it anyway. If I knew they were rigid anti-gun folks, I just wouldn't go at all and if they happened to have some 'gunbuster' sign up at their house, I'd just turn around and leave.
A concealed carry firearm is kinda like a condom in your wallet; unless you need it, you shouldn't be pulling it out and showing it off and if you do happen to need it, you'll be very thankful it was there.
As to someone carrying in my home? I could care less as long as they are observing my philosophy above.
I respect the known wishes of others (e.g. my in-laws). I don't perceive myself as having any right to enter somebody's residence with a concealed pistol knowing they would not want that.
Don't ask, Don't tell. What they don't know, can't hurt them. But not carrying can get you all killed.
Never tell, period. It might be their house but its none of their business what is in my pockets. If by some mistake of mine they find out and want me to leave, I am OK with that.
A few know I carry, and don't make it an issue. Many more DON'T know I carry, and its not an issue.
If you act like a buffoon with your gun--THAT'S what makes people uneasy and they don't want you (or your gun) in their house.
If it's friends of friends...I definitely don't ask for permission (unless required by law...I think Arkansas or South Carolina requires such a thing)...
In your scenario, they don't know me, I don't know them....so all is well...I keep it concealed and carry on with my life.
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What if you don't know?I don't perceive myself as having any right to enter somebody's residence with a concealed pistol knowing they would not want that.
My family (Mom, Sisters & their spouses) all know I carry. Mom did not think it was a big deal. Both sisters & their spouses went bat-poop crazy about having it in their homes. One sister & I reached an agreement that allows me to carry in her house but no ammo in the weapon (two mags on the belt & one in the pocket though.) The other sister (the one whose husband introduced me to firearms when I was a little kid) won't let me carry in her home. I do not go to her home for more than 10 minutes at a time as a result.
If I had never said a word, nobody would have ever got their panties in a bunch over it. Nobody would have cared because nobody would have known. The irony is that I figured the family that has a hunter as head of household would have been cool about it. Nope... This is the guy that put the first handgun, shotgun & rifle in my hands. He has several guns in the house. He was the first to take me hunting. He got my mom to buy me my Mossberg 500c when I was in Jr. High School as a birthday present even though Dad was against it. He often asks me about guns and defers to my judgement on anything handgun related or legal related to gun laws, yet I can not carry in their home.
If you KNOW the residence you are about to enter is very anti gun, do not go in or disarm. If you have never talked about it with them do not bring it up. If they bring it up you have a choice to make. Just make sure your concealment is tight!
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It's not something that's up for discussion...most would not know.
I have one sister who is scared to death of guns, but would never ask me anything about being armed...she knows I am.
She saw a firearm in the car and got upset. She still never asked if I brought that 'thing' into her house. No gun, no visit (she lives a few blocks outside of Detroit.)...
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I agree with what pretty much everyone said. I wouldn't mention it to anyone, if the homeowner somehow finds out and wants me to leave that is fine with me.
I don't tell, concealed means concealed. The only way they would find out is if I had to use it. I was just at a coworkers house last night for a BBQ and no one there had any clue that I was carrying.
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I don't think the removing shoes example is comparable to your question or scenario. When a host is expecting guest, they would assume that you are wearing some type of foot wear. Therefore, they would ask to have your shoes removed prior to entering, for whatever reason.
It is unlikely that the host would assume that the guests would be carrying a firearm or other weapons; therefore, I would not disclose that I am carrying. Who knows what might end up happening inside their home, right? You gotta be prepared to defend yourself at all times. So, unless they ask me to "remove" my firearm before entering their home, I'm not even thinking about it. I would just enter as normal and enjoy their hospitality.
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