need your help
This is a discussion on need your help within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Originally Posted by rangerman2003
i have also tried to get her mom to see that when its on my its safe and that is safer ...
September 9th, 2006 12:57 PM
To my way of thinking, this was almost, but not quite, the right angle.
Originally Posted by rangerman2003
You'd probably do better to try to get her mom to see that when it's on you it's safer than it is sitting in your truck because your truck might get broken into, or maybe her kids could get into it. As long as it is on you, no one can get to the gun without you knowing about it and preventing it.
Forget trying to convince her (or anyone) that you need a gun for protection. You know it, I know it, but it's a losing battle. Stick with the fact that on your body is the very, very safest and most secure place for your firearm to be. Anywhere else, there's always a possibility (however remote) that children, the criminal, or the clueless could get it and do something stupid or dangerous. But when it is on your body, there's no chance at all that anyone else can handle it.
September 9th, 2006 01:34 PM
She's putting you in danger, by divulging to folks when you aren't there. This time, it happened to be (extended) family members, but she's likely telling them 'cause she feels they'll take her side and help with her control issues (over you and your "problem"). She immediately clammed up when you arrived. Who knows how many other folks she has told. A bad situation.
Originally Posted by rangerman2003
I think she needs a fair hearing on what security and threat means. She needs to have it crystal clear as to what constitutes placing you and yours in a position of greater risk. She needs to keep her mouth shut ... or, you might well need to exit stage left. She doesn't get it, yet. She might not ever, seeing as how she's actively undermining you now.
Good luck with all of this.
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September 9th, 2006 02:25 PM
September 9th, 2006 04:08 PM
You are in a very bad situation. She is putting you in danger by telling people you are carrying. She may not understand that but I suspect that she wouldn't believe it if you explained it to her.
I would suggest doing what I did with my Mother in law but I am sure many of you would say I was a serious jerk for suggesting it. You can PM me and Iwill tell you what I did if you want.
I'm not sure what to tell you but I can ask you this, do you think that your girlfriend is "the one"? Do you think you may want to marry her? If so, then you have to find a way to work this out. If not, it may be time to think about finding a different girl, one whos family won't treat you like a second class citizen just because you take your protection and the protection of your loved ones lives seriously.
September 11th, 2006 07:29 AM
thanks guys the help is very appreciated
September 11th, 2006 08:15 AM
PT-111, don't tease us!
Maybe it's time to start dropping hints that visits to Mom's house are going to be few and far between.
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