However, selecting the safest car is no different than selecting your carry piece. It's what suits you.
But given that you and your family are three times more likely to expire in your vehicle than you are to be involved in a deadly shootout, you should practice the maneuvers you learned in your advanced driving course three times as often as you practice force on force drills. And, based on the "logic" of training for the worst case scenario, you should outfit your EDD to sustain a deadly crash, and your passengers should have the same safety equipment you had in the course.
In the end, you are using the justification of preparedness to allow you to do that which you enjoy, but not allowing others the same justification for what they prefer to do or not do. And, in many posts, deriding those who do not feel the compulsion you do to pursue YOUR regimen.