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Do you tell or not tell when entering other peoples home while carrying?

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#1 ·
I'm concerned about entering friend's homes and carrying my concealed weapon without their knowledge. I know that a sign must be posted in Texas according to code, to prevent you from entering, but I feel that it's a courtesy to ask and discuss it with the homeowner. My husband and I do not want weapons coming into our home without our knowledge.

Currently, I have a friend that is scared of guns, so I secure it in my vehicle when I am at her home. When I am at a friend's house that does not know I carry, I secure it in my vehicle also.

What do you do?

Thank you for your replies. I am new to carrying.
 
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Why on Earth would you tell? Concealed MEANS concealed.

ETA: This post comes off a little rougher than I intended but the message holds true. Think about it. Why would you tell them? What response are you wanting? do you want to start a dialogue about guns? You can do that without telling people that you are armed.

Now to add some wisdom from my experience: The less people that know you carry a gun the better. there will be less rude remarks, there will be less blowback from antis and there will be less chance that a friend will "out" you at a really bad time.
 
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Why on Earth would you tell? Concealed MEANS concealed.

ETA: This post comes off a little rougher than I intended but the message holds true. Think about it. Why would you tell them? What response are you wanting? do you want to start a dialogue about guns? You can do that without telling people that you are armed.


Now to add some wisdom from my experience: The less people that know you carry a gun the better. there will be less rude remarks, there will be less blowback from antis and there will be less chance that a friend will "out" you at a really bad time.
Don't worry, you will not hurt my feelings with your honest opinion. I did ask for it all. So it's ok for other people's concealed weapons in your home, without your knowledge?
 
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The only way anyone would know that I carried a gun into their home would be if I ended up needing to use it due to a home invasion or some such thing taking place while I was there. In honesty I feel the same about people as I do businesses. If it is legal to carry into your home I will. If you make it clear that you don't want someone to carry in your home that's fine, I'll never enter your home. If someone expects that I'll talk to them about a weapon before I enter their home then they probably don't want to be my friend because I'm not going to ask.
 
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My position is, I need to know because I have children and my sacred duty is their safety. I need to know where your weapon is so that I feel safe that it is secured, not that you are likely to leave your CH in your purse unsecured, but I have witnessed that very situation. If you are a friend of mine, I already know you have a CH. I'm not being hypocritical, I just want to know your weapon is secure while in my home.

So most of your friends don't know you conceal carry? That's very secret agent of you. ;)
 
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I had a party at my house a couple years ago (listening to music and shooting pool) in which 20 people showed...over 50% were carrying concealed. Safest place to shoot pool in the whole county.

How it came up was one of the guys was leaning over the table to make a shot and hit shirt rode up and his CCW was exposed. One of the ladies there said, "Oh my God, I can't believe someone here is carrying a gun" and I replied, "I'm betting there are more people here tonight carrying than not" and simultaneously we all lifted our cover garments. Quite a nice collection of Glocks, 1911s, Springfields, Rugers, and Smiths. I was actually surprised at a couple of the guys there not carrying...they went shooting with us a lot. Funny thing is that particular lady started going with us on our shooting outings and she got into it. It turned her 180 degrees on guns.
 
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I don't go to that many different people's homes to begin with, but I certainly don't advertise the fact that I'm carrying! Concealed means concealed! The people I know to whose houses I would go would not object to me carrying anyway. I don't have any "anti gun" friends. Just my .02.:smile:
 
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It's not required by AR state law, but shows respect. If you were 'made' after being in someone's house, might be uncomfortable at best and dangerous at worst. My preference is to ask first.


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#24 ·
Are you sure its not? I'm getting my carry license in the next month or 2 and from what I've read so far it is required in Arkansas to inform a homeowner before entering their home...
 
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#22 ·
I don't necessarily tell, but the people's houses I usually go to are very close friends and family who know I carry and I shoot with, etc. If its anywhere else, I just don't say anything. I've never knowingly been to someone's house that's anti-gun. I guess I just don't have much in common with those type of people.

I have no issue with someone carrying in my house. My only request is if its a really cool gun, I want to see it :yup:
 
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Do you tell or not tell when entering other peoples home while carrying?
Depends on if they have a CPZ sticker on their front door. I'll answer them honestly if they ask why I'm not entering their home then.

If not, I carry as usual. What they don't know....

I'm not obligated to tell them I'm wearing underwear or not, so why would that be any different with a sidearm?
 
#27 ·
I do not. As everyone here basically feels concealed is concealed. No one has a reason to be scared of me or my gun. Fear of guns is irrational since its an inanimate object. If you don't trust someone don't let them in your home regardless if they own a gun or not.
I play poker quite often in the casino while carrying concealed. After the Newtown massacre someone mentioned they would feel uncomfortable knowing someone was at the table had a gun on them. Without stating I had one on me, I asked how would they know if someone did? They answered they couldn't know. So I stated how would they know if someone was playing with them for the last year and they didn't know? Wouldn't that make it an irrational fear since the admit they've never felt unsafe. I told them I carry sometimes. When asked if I was carrying now, I answered of course not. Why would I bring a gun into a gun free zone? I am after all a law abiding citizen....
 
#28 ·
Depends ...

My middle daughter is totally anti-gun and I wouldn't walk into her house carrying.
We've had the discussion often ... "don't understand why you feel the need to have
a gun on your hip". She don't live in SC !

Now my youngest carries a .45 when it can be comfortably concealed or a compact
.380 at other times. She out shoots me !

In SC it is stated you cannot enter someones house without telling you're carrying
or asking permission. So most friends know I carry and I don't have to disarm before
entering their house. With acquaintances I just leave them locked in the car.

J
 
#29 ·
Hi LesbianShrink and welcome to the forum but it is in fact required that you notify someone when you enter their residence.

I will notify someone if I am carrying as it is required by law and I would expect the same in return. Among my trusted friends I already know and they know me but like others I do not visit a lot when home so it does not cause many issues.
 
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#30 ·
@ArmedLady. It's up to you but I can tell you from experience that your friend doesn't want to know. If you feel that you are disrespecting her by not telling her then leave your pistol at home. There is no law that says you are required to carry to your friends house. Do what you think is best but telling her is probably not going to go over well.

In a few months or a few years you won't feel so freaked out about carrying like you do now when it's new. In time you won't think twice about this kind of thing because you'll know that the only way people are going to know you are armed is if you need to shoot someone.

This is the best advice you will ever get about CC: Concealed MEANS concealed and until you are 100% sure about someone you should keep it a secret.
 
#31 ·
Whether you decide to tell someone you are carrying in their home is one of those ethical questions that only you can decide.

I'm more concerned that you would so easily allow yourself to be disarmed. I mean, you have decided that the world is dangerous enough that you have made the decision to go armed. You are prepared to use deadly force to defend yourself and your children if necessary. Yet suddenly, when you arrive at a friends home who is afraid of guns, you are willing to sacrifice yourself and possibly your children and become another helpless victim.

There is nothing noble about being a willing accomplice to your own victimhood. (not sure if victimhood is a real word)

Jim
 
#32 ·
My barber works out of his house. He is liberal in everything except guns. We have often talked about the RKBA and we seem to agree on most of this. I asked him if he would mind if I carried in his shop. ( I have to remove my coat to get a hair cut). He said no , I could not carry there.He was afraid another customer might be upset by my gun. I know I should find another barber but it took me two years to find one who cuts my hair the way I like it and I have been to every shop in town. Besides that I am only in his shop for about twenty minutes at a time when I go so I put up with it. Also I live in SC and we do have to tell someone if we come into thier house armed.
 
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