Taking matters more seriously
In my blog today, I posted this story:
As some of you know, my husband (posts occasionally as mrshonts) is a social worker, and he's neck deep in dealing with parents, foster parents, and the often abused, neglected, and molested children. He also does a lot of supervised visitations. It's a job he's very good at, but it can also be a dangerous job.
10/18/06 - HENDERSON, Ky. - A nine-month-old boy, his mother and her boyfriend were still missing Wednesday, two days after a social worker was found dead in the mother's home, and police were taking calls of possible sightings across the Midwest.
Boni Frederick, 67, had taken the boy, who has been in foster care, to his mother's house for a visit Monday. Police found her body after she failed to return to work, and she appeared to have been beaten to death. Her car also was missing.
"It was blunt-force trauma and sharp-instrument lacerations," Sgt. John Nevels of the Henderson Police Department said Tuesday. "There was definitely a struggle."
Police searched Tuesday for the missing boy, who was believed to be with his mother, Renee Terrell, 33, and her boyfriend, Christopher Wayne Luttrell, 23...
Terrell has a history of abuse charges against children, including charges of assault and endangering the welfare of a minor, police said. The child had been taken from his mother when he was 13 days old because of neglect.
A neighbor, Jean Davis, told The Courier-Journal that Terrell learned last Wednesday that Saige would be put up for adoption. Terrell told friends on Saturday she planned to take the boy and run away to New Mexico, Davis said...
Advocates said the slaying emphasizes the danger of social work.
"It's like a state trooper stopping somebody for speeding," said Kathleen Hoffman, deputy director of the Association of Social Work Boards. "Ninety-nine percent of the time it's fine. But there's always that chance that somebody has a gun."
Terrell has family in Louisville; Evansville and Fort Wayne, Ind.; and New York, police said. Frederick's car was missing, and the dispatcher said Terrell, Luttrell and the boy may be traveling in it. It was described as a 2000 white Daewoo Nubira station wagon with Kentucky license plate 675-DRV.
Renee Terrell was described as white with brown hair and brown eyes, glasses, 5-foot-5 and 240 pounds. Luttrell was described as white, blue eyes, 6-2 and 150 pounds with tattoos on his arms.
Saige Terrell is white, brown hair and brown eyes, 27 inches tall and 19 pounds. Police said the boy is developmentally disabled and has a scratch on the right side of his face and a rug burn on the back of his neck.
When I met my husband, he had already been thinking about getting his carry permit. I imagine his large size and never having been in an incident made him not take self-defense too seriously before. We went back and forth a lot on related issues - you may recall the thread where I could not get him to understand why I did not want to travel to places I could not carry.
He's got his permit now, but is limited in where he can carry, since he goes to schools, courts, and other gov't buildings a lot. Otherwise, he must remain in deep concealment.
Recently he's been wanting to take the issue of self-defense more seriously. I imagine what goes on in his job is opening his eyes more, and since he's suffering from a couple bulged discs in his lower back, I think he feels his physical strength is hampered, so he is wanting to rely more on tools. I admit he's pleasantly surpised me in wanting to go to the gun shop and look around and find more options for guns and carry options. I know he's really wanting to do it for himself and not to please me.
I'm going to have to extend his pockets so he can carry better - the butt of his j-frame Smith tends to want to ride up. He's lost a lot of weight from working out, so we think he's at the point where he can try IWB carry. He's also considering a BUG.
All these improvements are great, but with the tools need to come all the other important stuff, like situational awareness and proper mindset. Since he's rather new to all this, I want to make sure he's properly prepared. I've been thinking about getting him to take a tactics course of some kind that would cover mindset and scenarios he would be likely to get into. We've got a couple facilities close by, like Rattlesnake Ridge and Tactical Response.
I hope he'll also check in here more frequently, and even if he doesn't post, just lurk around.