Starting to carry: did family or friend treat you differently?
This is a discussion on Starting to carry: did family or friend treat you differently? within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; first of all great idea for this thread. As I am still very very new at carrying alot of these issues have come up.
May 29th, 2007 06:04 PM
May 29th, 2007 06:51 PM
My wife, my kids, and my boss know...that's it.
All are supportive EXCEPT the Mrs. She doesn't understand why I carry all the time and have one within reach at home. She's all for the guns being around, but she'd prefer that they stay locked in a safe while I'm home. We don't have small kids any longer, (youngest is 18) so I'm trying to make her understand that a BG kicking in the door is NOT going to wait for me to get to the bedroom and grab a handgun.
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Originally Posted by Dal1Celt
May 29th, 2007 07:37 PM
Really funny you should ask. I missed Church this past Wednesday night for personal reasons. My Pastor, also my fishing partner, knows I carry 99% of the time, Church included, save the "Carry in Church" comments, the comments will change neither me nor you, thank you. He called me late Wednesday night and commented on how he felt vulnerable at the front of the church without his "protection" sitting in the sound booth, meaning me. Two weeks ago, on Wednesday night, about mid service, we had a visitor come in the front door of our Sanctuary. Can't explain exactly why, but, bells, whistles, and alarms began going off in my head, he was dressed differently, came in with a drink he set on the front table, came in mid service, just did not fit. I have a mirror set up where I can see anyone entering the church from my sound booth. This guy walks in, sits at the back of the church, slowly stares around the room at everyone there. He then turns looks at the sound booth and sees me standing in the back corner of the sound booth. What he could not see was my cover garment swept back and my right hand on my S&W M&P 40. He was startled to see me behind and to his right, staring at him. He immediately arose and walked out of Church. He could only see me from the chest up, nothing below my chest line. Later, my Pastor buddy asked if I had seen this guy, told me he was trying to get my attention from the front of the Church to watch this guy. I never saw the Pastor, I was locked in on our visitor. The Pastor had the same eery feelings about this guy. So yes, my Pastor treats me differently knowing that I carry. There are so few folks that know I carry, I really don't notice them treating me any differently. Of course, I was raised in SW Louisiana, we used to carry our shotguns to school to hunt in the afternoons. Around here, good guys with guns just are not that unusual.
Last edited by Cajun; May 29th, 2007 at 07:42 PM.
May 29th, 2007 08:47 PM
Most don't realize I have a gun on me, including my wife so it has not been an issue.
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May 29th, 2007 09:53 PM
Family, strong distancing, rare aknowledgement, given that look that says "there's the crazy guy" quite often.
Friends, no issue at all, in some cases strenghtening the bond we share.
May 29th, 2007 10:01 PM
Don`t tell that you carry.
May 29th, 2007 10:15 PM
Thata boy! If someone doesn't want to carry, then they're free not to. Pisses me off when people try to impose their lack of desire to exercise the second amendment on others.
Originally Posted by Nate
May 29th, 2007 10:22 PM
Yeah, tell her you're just very excited to see her...
Originally Posted by ruffryder1167
May 29th, 2007 10:57 PM
They can't treat me any different - they don't know when I'm carrying and since it isn't visible, they assume I am not! Concealed = concealed.
"If we loose Freedom here, there's no place to escape to. This is the Last Place on Earth!" Ronald Reagan
May 29th, 2007 11:14 PM
Not a big deal for me. Sorrounded by free thinking midwesterners, and relatives that grew up hunting. Not a big deal and non issue for me.
"Remember the first rule of gunfighting..."have a gun""
May 29th, 2007 11:17 PM
My wife said I didn't need to carry every where I went but it took one time when we were on vacation and we got lost in a very bad section of town to change her mind. she always checks to make sure I have the gun now.
May 29th, 2007 11:19 PM
My parents both know I'm a marine veteran, duh... They both know I'm a tactical medic on a swat team... and they both know I've had more than one near death experience that was job related.
They don't say anything about it and my weapon is concealed at all times. I think my mother would just as soon not have me in a dangerous occupation but doesn't say a whole lot.
I do find it interesting that my mother is glad my wife has ccw permit but understands that my wife has a permanent disablility from a line-of-duty injury/assault when she was a medic and has very limited mobility now because of it.
I really don't think the rest of my relatives, including my sister knows I carry although they do know my occupation and close involvement to law enforcement being on the tac team.
As far as my friends go, maybe 6 or 7 know that I actually have ccw permit. One of my co-workers took ccw with me so he obviously knows and my boss knows I carry off duty but other than that, most know I'm a firearm enthusiast but never ask if I have CCW and I don't tell.
"The gun is the great equalizer... For it is the gun, that allows the meek to repel the monsters; Whom are bigger, stronger and without conscience, prey on those who without one, would surely perish."
May 29th, 2007 11:21 PM
My parents know and that is about it. I haven't heard anything negative. I can't believe that they would have a problem with me protecting their grandchildren.
My mother enjoys shooting and so does my father, but he doesn't have the eyes for it anymore. I know that my mother used to carry years ago before the CCW was made legal, but only when she went into the "BAD" part of town.
Don't hit at all if it is honorably possible to avoid hitting; but never hit soft!
-- Theodore Roosevelt --
May 29th, 2007 11:37 PM
Not much difference. Most didn't know ("concealed" means "concealed", right?). Family and friends who didn't know for sure probably could have guessed but wouldn't have cared (both of my parents have their permits, but I really don't know if either carries regularly...many friends have their permits, too, and carry).
I didn't really tell my wife at first. As it became more obvious she became more tolerant of it. Then she took comfort in it. Now she has her permit application in and I am going to buy her (a second) pistol for her birthday (but she doesn't know it yet).
I got her Walther P22 to start with. We went gun shopping again recently and she really likes the Taurus Millenium 9mm.
"...bad decisions that turn out well often make heroes."
Gary D. Mitchell, A Sniper's Journey: The Truth About the Man and the Rifle, P. 103, NAL Caliber books, 2006, 1st Ed.
May 30th, 2007 01:23 AM
I carried 24/7 while I was a LEO. My wife was used to it. The only problem would be when she'd whack her elbow/arm on the butt of my Glock. She would really give it a cussing then. Now that I'm a civilian and have my ccw she'll often ask me if I have "IT" with me while in certain areas or crowds. Friends that know I carry now, were used to me carrying when I was a LEO so, no big deal. I don't think they feel it's necessary to carry but they don't give me grief. I usually don't bring it up and they really don't notice anyway.
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