Starting to carry: did family or friend treat you differently?
Consider the following sentiment, quoted from someone who noticed a feeling of distance from family/friends, once the decision to carry had been made:
QUESTION: Did you experience any of this, when you decided to carry? Did family or friends treat you differently? Did they know whether you carried, and did they approve or disapprove? Did/do they understand?
I have only recently begun carrying. I was fully prepared for the depth of responsibility in making the decision to carry. What has surprised me is the sense of separation from my friends and family that this decision has caused me.
For me ...
Been carrying since 1995. I did experience some of this, initially, yes. Friends don't know, other than two, one of whom carries. Family, though, changed. I'm held at a distance, now, from my mother and sister. It's definitely noticeable. Dear ol' mom's a died-in-the-wool, knee-jerk liberal with the attitude that one should roll over and submit before lifting a finger to defend, hence she looks at me as though I'm a bit twisted for having taken this step. My sister treats me a bit coolly, now, and is all business when it comes to doing things together. My father's in a cloud and doesn't know, but he certainly wouldn't understand why anyone would need such a tool or would want to take such a step. Is still this way, with close family, even 11yrs later. Other friends and associates don't know I carry.
My Wife Treated Me Differently Alright!
When I started to carry, her basic comment was "glad you caught up with me". Her permit came in about 30 days before mine. We had both applied to Florida because ,at that time, my County in MO was playing games with implementing MO's CCW law in 2004. Now I hold five permits and teach CCW so I am never at the risk of having to "catch up "with her again.