If this is not resolved, it can destroy the relationship between you.
Originally Posted by DataMax
I have a family member who is like that. Thankfully for me, she lives elsewhere. But there is simply no speaking with her on the subject. It's verboten with a capital "V" at all times. The logic is non-existent and even when faced with irrefutable and simple rationale and facts, in the end it's like this: "... well, it still isn't right and I can't accept that." Even when faced with no rationale to support the bias, and no logic that can explain away the facts, it's dismissed on emotional grounds as evil and wrong. It's morally wrong, to her: possession, use, carrying. It's a necessary evil for some (ie, police), but it remains an evil. Frankly, I don't think there is any dealing or arguing with it. IMO, it cannot be justified, but that doesn't help anything. It is what it is.
Suggestions? I haven't the first clue. If she is impenetrable, with respect to rational thought on this topic because of the simple fact it's this topic (guns), she is abdicating from her humanity, intelligence and duty as a parent to protect her family. It's that sort of thinking that in a real situation can get people killed. And in those sorts of situations, in reality, often it's a firearm that's the only suitable tool for defense. I'd much rather have the right tools, the basic tools, than to live with someone seeking to apply guilt and pressure to disarm me. That, I will not do. But that's just me.
The only argument I can think of is this. It's the simplest and most basic rationale. It doesn't rely on emotion. It doesn't vary with respect to the vocation of the user of the tool.
Some tools are so crucial in certain situations that there is no viable alternative tool. Such as a fire extinguisher; a cell phone, if communications is required; or a spare tire if going into the wilds where cell phones don't reach; or rope if climbing/dropping needs to be done; or a firearm for defense; or insurance to cover the unexpected. It's a simple matter of preparedness. Either have the tool and be prepared, or fail to have the tool and go unprepared for what might happen.
She'll either buy it or not.
I agree: she needs to be attacked, or to be present and witness her family being attacked. And she needs to witness the power of the proper tool at the proper place/time that's properly used. Sad, but apparently in this case true.