There are always lines in the sand. Would you cheat on your wife? Hopefully not. That's a line in the sand. Break that, and you could could face a divorce, but I suppose if you believe there shouldn't be ultimatums, you'd expect to get away scott-free. Personal safety is very important to me. He knows that, and we both want a middle ground on the subject of travel. I asked that mrshonts respect the fact that I do not want to travel to vacation destinations where I cannot carry, and offered a middle ground solution - go to equally fun places where I can carry. I can try to convince mrshonts, but I cannot and have no desire to force him. I highly respsect him and would never force him to do anything. He is his Own Man. I can, however, if I determine mrshonts not compatible enough
But, we each led by example, not by ultimatums and deadlines.