To a non-carry permit holder, "our ways" can seem odd.
Mrshonts will be getting his carry permit soon, but as someone who's been packing since she turned 21 talking to someone with limited firearms experience, it's been difficult explaining things, like why I carry more than one gun, or why I don't like going to places where I cannot carry. He understands now why I carry more than one gun, and his time here has been beneficial in explaining the armed mindset.
Recently he wanted to take a trip to Chicago, and I was not enthusiastic about going. I don't care for "Communist states" - any state that does not recognize the TN carry permit or insists on leaving their citizens as unarmed victims. I have other places I can go. I don't like our fun spoiled, however, as I enjoy our time together. I tried to come up with alternate locations we can visit, but Mrshonts does not understand why I insist on being able to carry everywhere. He says he wants me to be able to feel safe even if I do leave my firearm at home, and does not understand why I don't want to leave it behind while we vacation.
We've had a lengthy discussion on the topic; I've used the seatbelt analogy and Murphy's Law thing. I know I can go my entire life without anything happening, but I also know there's always the chance of anything happening. I don't carry just for myself, but also for the safety of the loved ones around me.
We hope to find some middle ground here. I don't want to go to places I cannot carry, and Mrshonts is upset because he doesn't understand.