Ghost-1 made a comment some time ago that got me thinking (I respect his planning, and see a need to do similarly). He wrote:
...I tell my wife to always walk or sit on my left side since I carry on the right and I always tell her that if I shove her hard that means to get down and out of the way.
In the car I tell her to duck down in the seat and not to get up until I say so or if I was to get hit and could not keep firing and throw her the gun she will get up and keep firing until I can get back into the fight or I can drive away to someplace safer.
My wife and I both carry: she has an snubbie in a fannypack, and may get a G19 for Christmas. Though the soul of grace and gentleness, she's quite willing to take someone out if they are threatening family. However, she's not very well trained or practiced (we're working on that). Daughter, at 18, is quick on the uptake but can't carry concealed yet... and open carry seems, well, inappropriate, and she's always with us. We are suckers for the late-night bookstore in town, so parking lot scenarios are the most likely for us.
Question is, what instructions, drills, training, or "standard procedures" would you suggest we develop? The idea is, if I see a threat, and am ready to draw or have done so... what should I have already trained them to do as I prepare to take action?
How 'bout answering it either or both ways: what advice for the guy whose wife is armed, and what advice if she's not?