This is a discussion on Girlfriend NOT happy about me carrying within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; Withing the first two weeks of getting my permit, my wife accused me of being obsessed because I was breaking in a new holster (x2 ...
Withing the first two weeks of getting my permit, my wife accused me of being obsessed because I was breaking in a new holster (x2 now) and always had the weapon near me.
I started talking to her about the fact that you can not pick and choose the moments that you would be attacked and that she should start keeping the house gun with her when I am at work or out of town. She replied with "I refuse to live in my own house and act like a paranoid victim!"
"When someone breaks into the house when you are home alone, then you will be the victim, and don't think that if you are upstairs that you will make it to the basement to get the gun before they get you."
It was about that time that our quaint little town started having daylight break ins on a daily basis...two blocks away.
She may or may not think that I am still obsessed, I do not know, for she makes no comment about it. I call it situation resolved.
To the OP, I do not know you, or your girlfriend, so my giving any advice would be inconsiderate at best, so please do not take the following very seriously.
Personally if it were me, "This is who I am, I don't try to change you, please do not try to change me." And for entertainment purposes, if she gets cranky about it, "Why don't you come down off your cross, build a bridge with the wood, and GET OVER IT!"
Grasseater // Grass~eat~er noun, often attributive \ˈgras-ē-tər\
A person who is incapable of independent thought; a person who is herd animal-like in behavior; one who cannot distinguish between right and wrong; a foolish person.
See also Sheep
"The right of the whole people, old and young, men, women and boys, and not militia only, to keep and bear arms of every description, not such merely as are used by the militia, shall not be infringed, curtailed, or broken in upon, in the smallest degree..."
Nunn v. State GA 1848
Get A New Girlfriend !!!!!!!!! Lol ....look For One That Already Has Her Own Gun
Wow, thanks for all the advice. I've come to the conclusion that I'm going to carry everywhere. For the times she doesn't like it, I could always get an LCP and a pocket holster. Also, I got my first pistol yesterday. It's a bi-tone XD40 sc. My dad got one two days before (knowing that I've been wanting one for months) and they had one left. He took me over there and got it for me since I'm still not 21. He was just given some money from my grandmother, who sold some land, and decided to buy me a gift. I told my gf I was going to get it and that there was a chance it would be gone. When I called her after getting it, she asked politely if I got it, and I said yes. She actually said, "Well good. I'm glad they still had it." This was a shock.
I think the biggest problem she's had with me carrying is when I first decided to carry and I told her about it, she said she didn't like the idea. Me being the guy I am simply told her that I'm sorry she felt that way and I was gonna do it anyways. That made her really upset b/c she said I didn't care what she thought. The fact is, I care what she thinks, but I care more about her safety. Also, because of what Lima said, I've been trying to show her that she's more important to me than guns, and it seems to be having a great effect.
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"But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him."-Jeremiah 17:7
Girlfriends come and go.
They don't do much good if some jerk kicks in your door at 1:00 AM.
They are also easily replaceable. In case she is super hot, get the gun and just don't tell her about it.
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You'd better hope she doesn't someday decide to teach you what LAUTENBERG means.
You'll soon learn that it's easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission
Best of luck with your lady.
Speak softly, and carry a big stick.
I had a similar problem, I ended up just doing what I wanted. I don't sit around and talk about it, I don't make a big deal of it. My wife can ignore and pretend I don't even own a gun, she does too! It is your desicion, just be a man and do it! Just don't talk about it all the time, and be responsible. Stay concealed and don't leave gun stuff all over the house. After awhile, I guarantee she will see you are responsible. It will become a non-issue. If you ever need it, she WILL be glad you had it. Many ladies actually end up liking the extra feeling of safety. It's your job to protect, whether she "likes" it, or not. Sheep Dog up! Good luck, stay safe. Clark
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Well I only read some of this but if I read correct you are 21 or almost? If that is the case let me say the harsh reality is you will probably not be with this girl in 10yrs(probably less). So with that in mind carry 100% of the time. If you do marry her let me intro my 5 year test to you. After marriage DO NOT have any kids for a min of 5 years!!! If you follow this advice pm me after that for my address to send the reward to
i know it's a broken record (plastic thing that used to play music) already, but it's not PC to think that this won't be your wife. If she isn't on board with this, then what else are you two "off" on.
I've heard the 4 things most argued about in marriage are:
1. MONEY-(no duhh) (save spend, dept.....)
2. Kids (to have or not to have)
3. In-laws (is 1 block or 1000 miles good for in-law to your house?)
4. Religion, politics, ethics (and gun beliefs)
Women are famous for trying to "change" the guy, after marriage. (they make country songs on this) and men just think that we can "logic" our way with most issues.
News flash. Doesn't always work out that way. Many marriages end in divorce.
I've told this to many a bachelor on his bachelor party night (drove limo part-time for 8 years). "Treat your wife like a leased car, you can't add options to her, she's AS/IS." So if you like having a pro-CCW women and she isn't you might get lucky and changer her but I doubt it.
Just my little .02
PS. Happily married 10+ years and she's told me on several occasions: "God, I'm happy knowing that you where armed." She doesn't even need to ask anymore.