It's not surprising that you wouldn't look for a violent attack from women because... well, it just doesn't happen as much.
While it certainly DOES and CAN happen it's less likely from a woman than from a man therefore, statistically, it's more prudent to pay closer attention to a man than a woman. I'm not saying you shouldn't pay attention to women, it just makes sense as to why you don't.
Often, women make great accomplices. They distract while providing the perfect window of opportunity for violent attacks. There have even been women who have asked other women to help them only to lead them into the hands of men who will prey upon the helping female. So they certainly aren't to be trusted.
And yes, people, in general, do not look for women to be armed. More often than not, they are right.
I go to a class with my husband it's not unusual that I'm the only woman there.
This is Lima Theory but I think it plays into the whole men vs women mentality a little bit. A man sees himself more as a protector and provider than a woman might so he's more inclined to arm himself. Women crave security and safety and like to FEEL PROTECTED by their mates. They CAN tend to look for outside protection rather than rely on their own resources. That's certainly not the case for all women, but it's a broad generalization that I don't believe is false.
Therefore, again, it's easy for anyone (criminal or not) to assume that a woman is not armed. And a woman can use that to her advantage. Or a couple can use that to their advantage.
If my husband and I are threatened by bad guys I guarantee you that they are going to pay more attention to him than they are to me. They are going to expect the first resistance from him. That is a perfect opportunity to use the situation to our advantage.
If you watch videos of violent attacks against men often (not always, but often) you will see the criminal wait for a distraction and sucker punch the individual from behind or the side or wait for a moment when resistance is less opportune.
Not necessarily so for a women. If you watch abduction videos or attacks on women, often (again, not always, but often) the criminals will walk straight up to the women. The woman is practically looking in the criminals face BEFORE the attack even starts.
Again, I think it's because criminals are more scared of other men than they are of women. They expect resistance more from another man than they do a woman and therefore they will approach them differently.
Now, there are those criminals who have lost all fear of man or woman and will attack with equal amount of aggression for both, but that's another breed altogether.
Despite what we KNOW to be true, that size doesn't matter, EVERYONE judges and evaluates people by what they see. You see a big strapping man next to a tiny frail woman and it's EXTREMELY easy to assume that the bigger threat (or resistance) is going to come from him rather than her.
It's easy for a man to look at another man and think, "I need to take him fast because he's about my size and if I give him an inch we might have trouble." But it's equally as easy for that same man to look at a woman and think, "She's little, I can take her easy."
And physically, he may very well be right.
I'll be the first to admit that I'm no hand-to-hand combat warrior. I'm a pretty frail little woman and while I can exact some pretty good blows in times of necessity I can be overcome by a strong man. This has been WELL proven to me.
That is why I understand my own PERSONAL need for tools of defense that can even the playing field a little bit. I won't rely on those solely, and yes, I will fight with every last breath in my body even if I am tool-less but my odds go WAY up when I have something to aide in defense.
And a man isn't usually looking for that kind of preparedness in a women. And it can be used to her advantage.
When people find out that JD and I carry they are usually not NEARLY as surprised about JD carrying as they are me.
I've even had people in gun shops out right say to the male employees, "I can understand you wanting to carry, but YOU.." indicating me, "..Why do YOU carry?" as though it's more shocking that I, as a woman, would want to defend myself.
I can, and will use that to my advantage.
You know what they say, "Always cheat, always win." I'll use any advantage I can get in my time of need.