If she doesnt feel the need or want to carry , there isnt much you can do about it.
This is a discussion on I know my wife knows better within the Concealed Carry Issues & Discussions forums, part of the Defensive Carry Discussions category; This is something that has been bugging me for a while now. My wife has her carry permit. When I'm with her she doesn't carry, ...
This is something that has been bugging me for a while now. My wife has her carry permit. When I'm with her she doesn't carry, and that's fine because I'm carrying. The problem is when I'm not with her. I know she knows better. Take tonight for example.
Her: "I'm going to get my nails done"
Me: "Did you grab your Taurus"?
Her: "I'm just going to get my nails done, i'll be fine"
After having similar exchanges about 500 times I got flustered finally and blurt out "I give up". I am so frustrated with her, because she will carry sometimes, like if she's going to the store by herself with the kids or something (mostly after I remind her), but still has that "everyone in the world is staring at me and knows I have a gun jitters". So when she goes out with people she knows like tonight, she won't carry a gun even if I remind her, like its not important. She is more concerned about being made I guess then her safety.
I've explained to her "Just because you're going to do XYZ thing doesn't mean you are safe, you aren't safe anywhere". She knows this, yet still neglects to carry. She is small and can be overpowered...
I don't know what to do. I don't want to see something happen to her.
"she will carry sometimes, like if she's going to the store by herself with the kids or something "
Sounds like she realizes the need to protect the kids at all times. Have you brought up doing that includes making sure she comes home safe every night, not just when the kids are with her. They need her to be there, period. You've probably already said this, but the more she carries the less she'll get the jitters.
This is what is confusing. She is the one that went down and got her carry permit on her own. I know she takes SD seriously, but it's almost like its too much trouble for her.
Perhaps she would prefer to carry someting smaller that is easier to conceal like a Kel-Tec P32 or P3AT.
Just my $.02.
Safe and sane shooting everyone,
I have the same IDENTICAL problem with my better half.
To go even further, at home I will leave a gun or two out for her and she forgets to put them away or to lock the safe when leaving the house (I'm already gone).
We talked about it and she said, "Well, just put the guns in the safe when I leave and lock it up."
I'm confused myself as what to do.
I guess I can only lead her to doing the correct thing...carry all the time...or just let it go and not worry about it.
We all make our own bed to sleep in...Pro2A, I share your frustration.
Guess what...(most) women don't think like men...
Proverbs 27:12 says: “The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.”
Certified Glock Armorer
NRA Life Member
Women, can't live with them................
CCW permit holder for Idaho, Utah, Pennsylvania, Maine and New Hampshire. I can carry in your country but not my own.
The sad truth of it is, it frequently takes a huge, scary event for people to realize that bad things really can happen to anyone, anytime, anywhere.
I hope that your wife gets the crap scared out of her, without any harm coming to her, so that she might "see the light" and start carrying.
If I were a less honest man, I might suggest you hire a friend to speed this process up a bit.
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.
- Margaret Mead
"Booger Hook Off the Bang Switch" - unknown
Suppose you were "Just going to church" in Knoxville, TN a few months ago.
At a certain church that morning, you would have seen several people gunned down in cold blood. No rhyme or reason, just some nutjob off his rocker.
That is a good reason to be carrying everywhere you possibly can.
And now, the biggest church in the region is holding CCW classes not one day but, several different days to ensure that everyone who wants to be certified, is certified.
I've been married almost 37 years... trust me, just be glad she carries at all!
ALWAYS carry! - NEVER tell!
"A superior Operator is best defined as someone who uses his superior
judgement to keep himself out of situations that would require a display of his
Go with her next time she decides she doesn't need to carry. I would.
I understand how you feel. My wife has her permit, but doesn't carry. She is prohitited from carrying at work, but won't even carry and leave it in her car. Just last month one of the hospital security (unarmed) was jumped and beaten on the hospital grounds. I talked until I was blue in the face, but it has done no good. I no longer say anything about it. As the old saying goes: "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink".
Freedom doesn't come free. It is bought and paid for by the lives and blood of our men and women in uniform.
NRA Life Member
Let her know you have decided to take out an insurance policy on her or, if you already have one, that you are increasing greatly the amount of the policy. Let her know that you will be making sure that all incidents in which the use of a carry weapon would have been of help will be covered in the policy.
It might get her to think a little more about how important you think it is.
Like I said, just a suggestion.
"The price of freedom is eternal vigilance." -Thomas Jefferson
"Liberalism is a Mental Disorder." -Michael Savage
GOOD Gun Control is being able to hit your target! -Myself
Well, at least your wife got her permit and will carry some of the time. Although my wife usually asks if I have my gun when we go out, I can't come close to even getting her to the range to shoot let alone getting her permit.
I suppose, at times, we need to be thankful for the little things.
"It does not do to leave a dragon out of your calculations, if you live near him."
J. R. R. Tolkien