What to do about touchy feely people?

What to do about touchy feely people?

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    What to do about touchy feely people?

    What do you do about touchy feely people?

    I am a pretty friendly guy and I have noticed how much physical contact I make since I have been carrying. Since I donít want to alarm anyone and draw attention to myself what am I to do?

    For example:
    I was at a wedding for a very close friend. I shook hands with the groom's father and hugged the groom's mother. Now I try to make the hug in such a manner that they wont touch the firearm. This happened many times throughout the night with various female friends and acquaintances and every time I made a conscious effort to keep their hands away from the firearm. My biggest fear is that the person will freak out and make a scene thus letting everyone know that I am carrying.

    What do you guys do in these types of situations?


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    keep elbows at side(resting on front of hips) and hug with whats left.
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    When someone goes for a hug, simply put your arms under theirs, forcing them to hug you above your waist. No problem if you carry IWB like I do.

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    Thanks for the suggestions.

    I had never put much thought in this sort of thing. I do carry IWB at about 4 o'clock. Ill try the 'arms under thiers' approach.

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    MelloYello,

    Down South, my friends shake hands and/or hug everytime we meet.
    I find the best way is to "go low". I approach them so that their arms HAVE to go above mine. However, a friend of my wife always knows when I'm carring my 3913 in my "Smart Carry".

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    For the weddings/reunions etc you have to stay on your toes and be ready to go low like previously mentioned.

    Even tougher is trying to manage the stealth hug (the one that comes from behind or catches you off-guard). My son is the Administrator at a healthcare facility so he could get an unexpected hug from a patient, family member, nurse, staff, etc. I think the best "hug tactics" he can employ would be to pocket carry or smart carry. Anything else will eventually get his ccw noticed during a hug.
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    Sneeze a lot and beg off the hugs for fear of giving them my cold.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MaricopaKid View Post
    MelloYello,

    Down South, my friends shake hands and/or hug everytime we meet.
    I find the best way is to "go low". I approach them so that their arms HAVE to go above mine. However, a friend of my wife always knows when I'm carring my 3913 in my "Smart Carry".

    David
    Um am I reading this wrong, or are you saying what I think you are saying..you know what kind of contact is necessary to discover a smartcarry...........
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    I shake hands...I don't hug...
    I've had a few pats on the back when CCW SOB...don't really care...let 'em make their best guess...

    Stay armed...no hugs...stay safe!
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    Hugs are good, especially from the ladies!

    If I'm at a function where there's going to be hugging or even the threat of hugging I'll use my SmartCarry or an ankle holster.
    ALWAYS carry! - NEVER tell!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MelloYello View Post
    What do you do about touchy feely people?

    I am a pretty friendly guy and I have noticed how much physical contact I make since I have been carrying. Since I donít want to alarm anyone and draw attention to myself what am I to do?
    With cell phones, pagers, leatherman in a pouch, and all of the other junk that many men carry, I sometimes wonder if we are a little too self-conscious about carrying (unless we are carrying the largest available).

    I sometimes let my coat flap open so that my cell phone holster or pager is visible. It is my belief that a concealed firearm sometimes is confused with these items, and no one gives it a second thought. If not, and a question is raised, always blame it on one of these other items, change the topic, and move around to visit with someone else. "Excuse me, I must say hello to ___."

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    CWBlanco has the right idea. Most guys I know keep stuff on the belts like leatherman tools and phone holsters. Another person on here has said it was their insulin pump that evokes sympathy adn embarassment. If the hugger is smart enough to see through these excuses, they probably are carrying too.
    But if you are authorized to carry a weapon, and you walk outside without it, just take a deep breath, and say this to yourself...
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    Quote Originally Posted by cwblanco View Post
    With cell phones, pagers, leatherman in a pouch, and all of the other junk that many men carry, I sometimes wonder if we are a little too self-conscious about carrying (unless we are carrying the largest available).
    I agree !
    After a few years, you'll find out that most people don't have a clue, even if their arms touch your pistol.
    Only those who carry might realize and maybe not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MelloYello View Post
    What do you do about touchy feely people?
    I give 'em a bloody nose or a fat lip.
    "Just blame Sixto"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pete Zaria View Post
    When someone goes for a hug, simply put your arms under theirs, forcing them to hug you above your waist. No problem if you carry IWB like I do.

    Peace,
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    This would also go well for me. I'm really not that much of a "physical" person anyway. I tend to avoid certain situations, and it's not because they make me uncomfortable....it's just that I have a rather 'tangible space' that's only breached on special occasions when allowed.

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