I don't understand this...
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My wife and I were deciding to go somewhere today with the kids. It's going ...
March 7th, 2009 10:26 AM
I don't understand this...
Ok guys, how many of you have had this problem?
My wife and I were deciding to go somewhere today with the kids. It's going to be in the lower 70's today, so we were going to make the best of the weather and head to the park or something. I made the suggestion to go to the city park on the other side of town.
She looks at me and says, well we can just go to the elementary school park right up the street... to which I look at her with the look...
When she suddenly realizes why that won't happen. I've had other instances where she suggests going to dinner in Hagerstown down in Maryland... again I give her the look. Unless I have to go somewhere, I tend to avoid gun free zones.
She has her LTCF... but RARELY carries, so she doesn't think that way.
Do you have similar interactions with your significant other?
March 7th, 2009 10:32 AM
No I do not have similar interactions like that with my wife.
I will never nor have I ever tried to talk her into anything gun related.
She is now interested and is coming to the range on her own free will
and is looking at a nice Kimber .45.
She wants to take some classes and maybe cc class someday but I leave it entirely up to her and her pace. The moment I try to talk her into something she is not into is the moment she will solidify her will against it.
March 7th, 2009 10:40 AM
We seldom go anywhere I can't carry so it really never comes up. On another note she is getting her permit also so I think she will be more cognizant where to and not to go.
For as the lightning comes from the east and flashes to the west, so also will the coming of the son of man be. Mathew 24:27
March 7th, 2009 10:41 AM
In similar matters, my wife is the first to point it out. I am pleased to add that she shows even stronger disgust than I do!
She carries an S&W 642 or her LCP.
"It's a big gun when I carry it, it is also a big gun when I take it out” – Clint Smith
March 7th, 2009 10:42 AM
Not so much anymore. I have worked with her to recognize areas that are friendly to criminals and she now thinks the same way, while we wait on her CHL to be processed.
"Don't hit a man if you can possibly avoid it; but if you do hit him, put him to sleep." - Theodore Roosevelt
March 7th, 2009 11:28 AM
My wife knows the places I will not go because of their gun restrictions. She no longer even mentions going to those places.
The point being made here is not trying to talk her into anything. It is about places that we as lawful concealed carriers chose not to frequent. For example, there are several malls here in the Richmond area that are posted. She knows I will not go to them. If she insists she needs to go to one of them, she knows that before we get there I will stop and buy a magazine to read, while I wait for her in the truck.
GreenHorn: I will never nor have I ever tried to talk her into anything gun related.
March 7th, 2009 12:05 PM
Yes it happens
I have been carrying about a year now and even still my wife sometimes suggest going or doing something that I say no to. The hardest is when your in a group suggesting it and your the only one saying no... she usually catches the look and has the oh yeah look on here face or i remind her in private later.
Sometimes it gets old but I still work on her mindset/action plans. She is slowly coming around to possibly carrying.
March 7th, 2009 12:19 PM
We have the same issue, except it is not with each other - it is with other family members who have their CCHL. They got theirs before I got mine, but still choose not to carry, and choose to go to gun free zones willingly and frequently...
It is a mindset, and they just choose not to have it...
On the upside it sounds like she is coming around pretty quickly, at least she recognizes the look!!
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"SA is a cognitive state or process associated with the assessment of multiple environmental cues in a dynamic situation" ~ Isaac
March 7th, 2009 12:23 PM
If I lived in the United States and not the PRNY I might have an opportunity to have that conversation.
Seriously (well actually that was serious), although my wife had her pistol permit for 20 years her interest in firearms, 2nd amendment rights and carry issues is minimal. In general (probably much more so in NY then other parts of the country) women typically are not as much into firearms related issues.
Men are the hunters and defenders, women are the nurturers and gatherers. We think differently.
And yes ladies, I understand there are exceptions to this generalization :).
Love this picture:
March 7th, 2009 01:13 PM
I like the pic too. Thanks for letting me download it. :-)
To the OP - probably best just to continue giving her "the look." It's a very mild rebuke, but it makes her remember and think. Hopefully as time goes by, you will have to give her fewer and fewer looks.
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March 7th, 2009 04:07 PM
Not really... she just made the comment "Well when you are gone for your job training I can go to the park up at the school"
Originally Posted by gilraen
She has her gun, she has her permit, she has a holster, she knows she can carry, she knows the laws... she just doesn't carry.
March 7th, 2009 04:30 PM
nope. she has her CPL too. we both carry.
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March 7th, 2009 04:36 PM
My problem so far has not been the places. My problem is with cover garments. My fashion sence is non-sence. When I am on my own my best description would be Ted Nugent-like. I take some flak for that, but don't back down. I just ask for suggestions of what will work instead.
When it comes to places, well, so far they are places we have to go, like post offices and hospitals.
But if you are authorized to carry a weapon, and you walk outside without it, just take a deep breath, and say this to yourself...
LTC(RET) Dave Grossman
Revolutionary War Veterans Association Shooter Qualification: Cook
March 7th, 2009 05:04 PM
Yes.....all the time. My wife does NOT think on the terms 'we' do. She has no intrest in carrying and has given me
Originally Posted by Pro2A
'that' look for having to consider my sidearm. She also understands why I carry, so that tendsto 'sway'things in my favor 'most' of the time. There is compromises also, but that is part of marriage as well.
"Just getting a concealed carry permit means you haven't commited a crime yet. CCP holders commit crimes." Daniel Vice, senior attorney for the Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence, quoted on Fox & Friends, 8 Jul, 2008
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March 7th, 2009 06:10 PM
That actually made me think of something. I had never really considered before that even after school hours that elementary playgrounds are off limits. I wonder what the likely out come would be if you are caught carrying at night or in the summer on school grounds.
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