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    My wife confuses me...

    A while back I made a thread about how my wife would not carry link

    Well the other day she turned it around on me, and it teed me off a bit too. I have left her alone about her choice of carry since that incident, with the exception that she would not hinder my ability to choose to carry. We were in Maine last week on Cobbossee lake. She said "We should go up to the Finger Lakes in NY sometime".

    I gave her that look... The look that she knows I've boycotted states that restrict my right to defend myself and my family and she knows it. I'll happily go to Maine, Vermont, New Hampshire... not New York or Maryland though.

    She got all pissy with me and said "I'm tired of you not going places because you can't bring your gun, you need to get over it".

    I'm sorry but when it comes to defense of myself and her, I will not "get over it". Anyone else ever had a similar encounter? I know she knows better, but still she says crap like this now and then. I don't get it...

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    No advice here.

    I'm very happily divorced.

    I can't stand when somebody bosses me around.
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    Yep, I pretty much do the same thing. Went camping last weekend, and I made sure to plan where we could go(we met halfway w/a friend from NH). Since PA state parks specifically allow carry w/a PA LTCF, that's where we went.
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    I hear you. Last night my wife and I went to dinner. She couldn't decide where to eat so we drove around for 20 minutes. Since we live in the most stupid state, Illinois, I had to wait to cross the Indiana border to carry. When she finally decided on a place I parked the car and she immediately opened the door. I ask her to close it back as I had to arm. I still can't believe her next words: "Ah, now you are going to make me wait?". '' I spent a few minutes trying to make her understand how absurd the comment was. It was pointless. We ended up going back home.
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    The only thing I can offer is that you all married them.

    Sometimes you do have to comprimise though. After all, three of the previous posters were driving automobiles which is far more likely to get you killed than going without a gun for a short period of time.
    Just remember that shot placement is much more important with what you carry than how big a bang you get with each trigger pull.
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    When my wife says jump , I don't even ask how high anymore , I just jump as high as I can every time .
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    Quote Originally Posted by Patti View Post
    I can't stand when somebody bosses me around.
    I have no problem with authority,
    I just don't like people telling me what to do.



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    My wife and I have an understanding. If the direction from Virginia is south or west, I'll go with her. If it involves heading north to DC, MD, NJ or NY she is free to go on her own. I've never lost anything in any of those states that I need to go back for.

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    ok I'm going to say this instead of holding my tongue and you guys can chastise me if you want but I'm seriously getting quite sick of those that have a negative opinion about carrying knowing FULL WELL they will expect those of us that DO, to protect their dumb butts when TSHTF! So here goes............. ask her how long it will take HER to "Get over it" when you tell the BG to just have at her! My husband and I both carry and I get annoyed when he picks places to eat that I can't carry, lol.
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    I'm not married, but every person that I have dated hasn't had an issue with me carrying. If I'm out of the house they know I'm armed period.
    I know not what this "overkill" means.

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    Your wife wants to go to the Finger lakes. You can not do that if you are presently armed. NY law would keep you from stopping over night, or even stopping.

    So, for the moment you have an out. You have your guns with you and therefore it is not wise to set foot in NY because doing so would be illegal. NY is so ridiculous, and the Fed. travel law so iffy as protection, that locking them in the trunk is insuffiicient protection for you if you enter NY. (You even took on too much risk as it is if you drove from PA (where you are licensed) through NJ and NY to get to Maine.

    So, your wife's request to go to the finger lakes on this trip is not reasonable, unless you find a way to leave your guns in Maine, go to NY, then back to Maine.

    Now, you can not get away with telling your wife NO, never. She has already made an issue of it, and you won't win. That's married life.

    You need to explain the legal problem, tell her that you will gladly take her to NY, and go there without your guns, at the earliest possible time.

    That might (who knows) get you a win win situation. You don't risk jail and you don't risk not doing what your wife wants because of a principle you hold dear, which she is unsympathetic to.

    Anyway, you can't go.

    So explain that part and make a promise (which you will keep) about the future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pro2A View Post
    I'm sorry but when it comes to defense of myself and her, I will not "get over it". Anyone else ever had a similar encounter?
    One of my extended family members has tried this. A desire to be incapable of defending oneself isn't my problem. The actual ability to defend, however, is.

    Evil exists. It doesn't disappear because of pissy attitudes or blindness, nor step aside because of Schumerisms (aka, potentially deadly synapse failures, in the area of the brain dedicated to reason).

    There are simply far too many places in the USA that do not first demand you disarm and close your eyes to reality, prior to visiting. We go there, instead, and we could continue doing so for the better part of a lifetime and not see it all. 'Nuff said.

    Do I have any suggestions for folks having to deal with people looking to eliminate a family's security measures? None, no.
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    I went off for a weekend with a girl once. Her dad was a fed so I foolishly assumed she would be okay with firearms. I dress well and we weren't in a good area so, naturally, some young entrepreneurs decided I would make a good target till they came a little too close and got a pistol in their face. After seeing that I carried a gun she left me a half hour later and stiffed me for a hotel bill. The sexual disappointment I could get over, but I'm jewish..and I hate being stiffed on hotel bills, lol. That's the last time I ever plan on dating a liberal.

    But hey, to those out their with wives who object - you did marry them, and marriage is about compromise. I gamble, so there are some places I go that I can't carry firearms, but I stay in shape, regularly train in combatives (not martial arts; there is a difference), and keep my awareness up. It's the nature of the beat - you can't carry a gun all the time; but a gun, while an excellent form of defense, isn't the only option out there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GlockGal View Post
    ok I'm going to say this instead of holding my tongue and you guys can chastise me if you want but I'm seriously getting quite sick of those that have a negative opinion about carrying knowing FULL WELL they will expect those of us that DO, to protect their dumb butts when TSHTF! So here goes............. ask her how long it will take HER to "Get over it" when you tell the BG to just have at her! My husband and I both carry and I get annoyed when he picks places to eat that I can't carry, lol.
    sorry, no chastise needed. I agree with you.
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    My wife and I have had that very discussion...we have relatves in NY.
    Our compromise was simple, I'm not setting foot in any state that does not recognize my right to SD.

    She is free to visit if she chooses...and she has...neither is to be angry with the other, just respect the difference in the desire to be armed.

    We've been married for almost 38 years (in a few more weeks), and there are certain things we seldom even try to compromise on...

    For her...furniture, interior paint colors, furniture placement (why do women have to move furniture so often?), and her hobbies.

    For me, my hobbies, my jobs, outside lanscaping, and my desire to be armed as much as possible.

    We're happy with the arrangements and that's what couples must learn to accept...we have. What works for us, probably wouldn't for many others, and vice versa.

    Stay armed...no compromise on SD...stay safe!
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