After my wife stole my P3-AT and a pocket holster, she carries a bit more often. I think she likes having the choice. I don't press the issue (or any issue, for that matter) because we're together 99% of the time, and I'm always ready hopefully to solve any problem. I think just going to the range and having fun with your wife may be a good first step, after she feels better. Marriage is a partnership. She gets to do anything she wants, and you can help.