Allow me to preach to the choir for a moment and share something that's been weighing heavily on my mind. I know that most of the members here are with me on this but for the few out there who may never have considered this topic (perhaps the new, unwed member) I want them to know how one mother feels. Maybe when they have a wife and young child one day they will remember what I've had to say here today.
Anyone who follows my videos online knows that I am not particularly sensitive. My thick skin allows me to sluff off the negative comments and continue on my way.
However, when a fellow concealed carrier agreed that a mother should not be carrying a gun a little fire got lit under my backside and I felt I needed to speak up. Not just for myself and my own ideals but for all mothers who have accepted the responsibility of defending their lives and the lives of their children.
The western idea of motherhood is still suffering, it seems, from a “Cleaverville” mentality that Mommy dearest stays at home cooking dinner in a frilly apron and climbs on top of chairs at the sight of a mouse, depending on her fedora-wearing husband to rescue her from all peril.
Truth be told, I with that were true. I wish I could be the frilly, lace-wearing mother who vacuums in high-heels and doesn’t think or conceive that bad things can happen to her or her children outside of a burnt bunt-cake and bad grades.
The truth, of course, is a much more ugly reality. No, there are not rapists, murders and child molesters pounding down our door but it’s a very sobering reality that wakes me up to the fact that we no longer live in a world where a woman with a child is looked on tenderly and left to herself. Often they are victimized, their children kidnapped, themselves harmed, with total disregard to the lives shattered.
I’ve watched videos of WalMart and grocery store security cameras where children are snatched right out of shopping carts or mothers from the parking lots. Women and children and victimized along with all others and sometimes to a much more devastating degree.
In an increasing violent society the increase in response cannot be expected from the police, the public or even husbands (if a man is even present in the household to begin with).
No, the increase in awareness, preparation and response can be expected only from the individual in whose care is placed the delicate life of a child: the mother.
Yet some have the audacity to say we mothers should not be armed. That we are somehow unfit to protect ourselves and our children just because we gave birth. What is it about giving birth that suddenly transmits a woman from a world of strength and equality to a place where she is looked on as fragile, timid and unfit for the role of protector?
I’ll tell you what. The day a man gives birth after twenty-four straight hours of heavy labor and and addition two hours of pushing without the aid of any medication will be the day he can give me an opinion on what kinds of things I can handle. Until then I would prefer he allow me to think for myself.
Certainly, there have been strides made in the area of accepting mothers into “a man’s world.” The areas of self-defense are no different. But based on the comments I both heard and read I feel we still have a long way to go.
I am not the only mother taking the responsibility of defense seriously. There is a wave of mothers across the country who are sick of feeling helpless and taking an active step forward in the defense of themselves and their little ones.
I am encouraged to see women, potential mothers, young and even seasoned mothers, getting training and standing up to rash violence that is encroaching on their families. Weather it be through the use of hand-to-hand defense classes, non-lethal tools like tasers and pepper sprays, or firearms, I am seeing a trend that is defiantly standing up to violence.
We have all heard the analogy of the mother bear who will stop at nothing to defend her cub. So many times we have seen that same instinct in human mothers who stand against impressive odds in defense of their babies. Yet, I’ve seen a social shying away from the idea that they can be armed, clear-headed, concise, exhibiting clear and calculated judgment in a confrontational situation.
It isn’t stopping them, however, from getting training or purchasing guns, emailing me asking for holster advice or to say “thank you” for standing up for something they’ve secretly been doing for years.
I would beg the skeptics to open their eyes and see a world where children and mothers need protection like never before. One in eight girls will be molested before they are eighteen and the same will happen to one in six boys. Next time you go to the post office or to WalMart I want you to look at the Missing Children board and try to picture your child’s face, name, and description on one of those pages. Now ask yourself if you’d rather have a trained woman guarding your child or a woman who has been discouraged by your skepticism, doubt and misgivings?
I would ask you to look beyond the diaper bags, cuddling, teddy bears and blankets and see strong women determined to give all for the little ones they love. Encourage mothers to train and prepare for an emergency we all hope never occurs. Teach them to embrace that mother-bear instinct rather than repress it. Don’t think of us as liabilities but as allies and bodyguards for your future, for your children.
To mothers who are actively exercising your rights and your wishes to defend yourself and your children: I encourage you to continue to stand up for yourself and that which you hold most dear.
Train. Prepare. And carry on.